AIBU to give my 3 year old dinner at 4pm?

[Lovejoywasodd]

My 3 year old returns from his day at nursery exhausted and hungry. I have checked with the staff and he eats his school lunch.
My DH does not want me to feed him until 6pm when we all eat together and said I should give him snacks in the meantime.
I have ignored this and given him dinner at 4pm. I do not want to fill him up on snacks when he wants dinner.
Who is being U? Also any solutions?
We cannot all eat together earlier due to my DH’s work.

There is plenty of time for family meals when he's older. At age 3 my kids were going to bed soon after 6 yet, 15 years on they have all learnt table manners, conversational skills and eat all kinds of food. I suspect your DH really wants to see his son, perhaps he could do bath/bedtime story when he gets home instead and you both eat later.

I was also going to say the same as many other, feed little one at 4 and then all sit together at 6 and give them pudding or a snack at that time, or a little of whatever you're having as a trying new foods opportunity. I'd then try to all eat together at weekend at the earlier time.

I feed my 3.5 yr old at 4 on a nursery day as otherwise she is likely to fall asleep without dinner if she was to wait until we eat (and they isn't particularly late).

Different things work for different families. We take your DHs approach, I like us all to eat together plus DS goes to sleep late and I’m not messing about cooking and eating a separate dinner for DH and I at 8.30!
DS has lunch at nursery at 12, a substantial snack around 3, usually something like veg fingers, breadstick and dip or savoury muffins, then an apple on the way home from nursery at 5-5.30ish. Then we all eat dinner together about 6.30, bath by 7-7.30ish and then bed. Mind you he still naps at nursery, no idea how we’ll manage when he drops that!