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Gypsyboy · 10/10/2018 20:20

AIBU to feel weird about people touching me? I'm not touchy in general but I don't like invasion of personal space whereas a few colleagues seem to think it strange

Maybe I am being weird but I think it can give the wrong idea about relationships between people i.e. people gossiping about a man/woman at work because of how close they stand to each other and occassionally touch when talking.

AIBU to not want strangers/colleagues too close to me?

Had a couple of wines so not sure how clear my post is! [grin}

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HouseQueen101 · 10/10/2018 20:25

I’m the same, hate people getting in my bubble (so close you can feel their breath) I’m only touchy with DH and kids. I’m not a hugger or kisser with friends. Think it stems from an abusive relationship. Ynbu people should respect your boundaries

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Aria2015 · 10/10/2018 20:26

Same, hate it. If someone touches me I can't concentrate, all I can think about is them touching me! I told a few touchy feely work colleagues and they were good about it but would occasionally touch me just to freak me out! I'm very affectionate with my dh and lo but it ends there!

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Lifeisabeach09 · 10/10/2018 20:28

YANBU.
I'm a touchy-feely person but I always do my best to respect that a lot of individuals aren't. I have to catch myself sometimes.

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FrangipaniBlue · 10/10/2018 20:34

Hate it.

If I can touch you by spreading my arms you are far too close.

I once worked with a man stupid twat who thought it hilarious that he could stop me mid sentence by standing right by my side and putting his arm around my shoulders Angry

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Aquamarine1029 · 10/10/2018 20:36

You never have to provide a reason as to why you don't want to be touched. You don't want to be touched, end of.

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startingafresh1 · 10/10/2018 20:43

I thought I was quite relaxed about this. However when I was on a flight last week, seated by the window. I was sleeping and a stewardess leaned over two people and grabbed the shoulder of my t-shirt and pulled and wriggled it to ask me if I wanted anything to drink.

I woke up with a start and felt she had totally overstepped the mark.

Was too flustered to say anything other than "no thanks", and I was surprised by how upset it made me feel.

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LemonysSnicket · 10/10/2018 20:46

I always hug people, touch their arm. If they're my friend anyway, in a professional setting less so but a hand on the shoulder etc isn't strange to me.

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noego · 11/10/2018 15:22

I'm a hugger

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