Or is it normal to have the rage ALL the time with people

[laceygo]

Not sure if it's my age (late 40s, no obvious symptoms of premenopause or anything) but I have recently felt like I have no patience with anyone , close friends annoy the hell out of me , I'm snappy and just can't bothered being nice like I used to be. I don't think I'm depressed or anything just angry ?
Anyone else similar ?

Me, exactly the same. Have to keep blocking posts on Facebook. Ignore all groups on WhatsApp. Hate everyone at work. Cannot conceal my anger on the school run. Etc etc etc

I am similar age and do have peri menopause symptoms as well, so a total delight to be around!

No it is not normal to be snappy - Please don't be like this as tbh I think people expect it from ladies in our age group, and you will help with that pigeonholing

You act how you chose - you can snap yourself out of it - esp if you suspect no depression or menopause or other medical reason

Being snappy is a great way to lose friends and end up sitting in watching the ex factor alone lol

What have you actually GOT to be angry about, do you have any real problems which are transferring into every day life?

It is your choice x

@SpankTheMonkey no real reason to be snappy , my DD even jokes about 'mum being menopausal ' so I totally get where you're coming from with pigeon holing this age ... but everyone irritates me and they seem to be saying/doing stupid stuff ... so I realise it can't suddenly be everyone around me so must be me but not sure what to do about it ?

lacey this is me but I’m just hitting 40. I’ve fallen out with everybody (made up with a few that mean a lot to me)

I’ve read loads of stuff about It’s because we’re getting older and ‘know’ our selfs and don’t take bull...

But for me it was/underlying stress/tiredness. My nerves and patience was/is shot to pieces. I have to try hard not to to snap at complete strangers I’ve been ragey since May

I get like this when my depression is creeping back again. Not saying that is what it is in your case, but sometimes it can be a symptom of something

I have one issue in my life that is upsetting me (don't really want to say what, nothing major but i am sad about it and think about it every day ) but wasn't sure if being upset could transfer into anger ? Maybe

Sorry if I fit into the stereotype but I describe it as meno-rage. I have been known to go totally batshit crazy and angry in the blink of an eye. Then it's over and I come down (almost) as quickly. I have been really lucky with the menopause so far in terms of other symptoms but this one has really shocked me as I am usually calm and rational. Are you sleeping OK - that has a big impact on my mood too. I do think though that there is something in the pp post about getting to the point in life where you don't take bull from people anymore and speak your mind more often....

Sorry if this doesn't help but you are not alone

@Northernmum100 it absolutely does help to know I'm not the only one , and I'm sleeping rubbish , so that's obviously not helping ... I agree it must be a mixture of hormones and the why should I put up with this shit at this time of life combo ,

I kind of agree with Spank in that allowing people to think it is menopausal rage just reinforces the stereotype, and tars all women with the same brush.

I do think that if something else is going on in your life it may well affect how you deal with people.

I have one issue in my life that is upsetting me (don't really want to say what, nothing major but i am sad about it and think about it every day

This, is a real problem OP

Whatever it is, it IS effecting your daily life, you think about it every day and it is going to affect your mood whether you realise it or not

Perhaps the problem you mention is having more of an effect on your daily life than you realise x

I actually think this is the age when women have a sort of awakening. You spend your whole life being "good" and pleasing people not to mention putting up with so much male bullshit...and then...you get angry. I think you can become either bitter or empowered at this age. You can set firm boundaries and stop apologising for everything or the anger pops out and you become "snappy". Own what's angering you and it kind of frees you.