To ask when I can go out?!

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Without worrying about ds?
Ds is 4 months and he's great generally, v smiley and happy with other people when I'm around too. I work two shifts a week, they're only 4 hours and ds is usually getting ready for sleep when I leave. He's generally fine with his dad while I'm gone. Last night, DP and I were having our first date since DS was born. We left him with DPs Mum (granted, ds doesn't know her very well yet). We got to the restaurant and were just waiting for our mains when DPs mum called to say she couldn't settle DS and that he was crying a lot. Naturally, I rush back. Now I feel really worried to leave him again, and it doesn't help that family keeps telling me it's not normal for a baby to be so "clingy."

I breastfeed, If that had anything to do with it. But I always leave him a bottle of milk. (Which he does take).

Honestly I wouldn’t of gone back last night, his a baby and babies cry 🤷🏻‍♀️ He would of settled.

Only way your going to get to go out is if you don’t rush back for a bit of crying tbh

So she forgot about the fact that babies cry and as soon as cuteness and cuddles were over, she couldnt be arsed and rang you?

I wouldnt use her again

Clingy?!?!? He's 4 months old for goodness sake. They'll be telling you he's immature next!

Sorry, perhaps I didn't explain too well. Of course babies cry and she knows that, she's usually great (and has been bugging me to babysit him for ages!) but he was inconsolable for around an hour apparently. When I got back he was still crying like crazy. Then as soon as I gave him a cuddle he was all smiles

He was with someone he didn't know very well, I am not surprised he cried it is completely normal for him to do that with someone he is unfamiliar with. before she babysits again could she spend some time building bonds with him in the day time?

It gets easier. My MIL has had my two kids overnight several times (they are three and 18 months) and in the nicest possible way I barely think about them! What's good though is that she's great with kids and is an excellent liar - she always always tells me they have been fine, eaten everything and slept through the night, which deep down I know can't really be true (especially the sleeping part, looking at you DS2). She knows that anything else would just worry me and I trust her to know what she's doing so leave it at that.

I actually think it was wrong of her to phone you, but perhaps she had totally forgotten what babies are really like and was a bit overwhelmed.