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It's impossible to move house please help.

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Holidayfromreal · 10/10/2018 14:14

I want to move closer to my parents, which is approx 70 miles, I'm a single mum and want to move for more support. I have literally zero where I am atm no friends or other family at all.

I claim UC and work as well but I'm so confused as to how to go about it.

For a start how do you move rented accommodation? My deposit is tied up in my current house but obviously can't get that back till I move out but I need it for my new deposit?

Then I have the problem of when I rented this house I had to accept the house pay the deposit and move in within a week or they would give it to someone else. This house needs a months notice and I can't pay rent for two houses so am I just supposed to hand my notice in and hope I find somewhere in the last week of my notice? What i do that and don't find anywhere? Where I want to move to is quite rural and rentals don't come up all that often.

Also if I find a house first I have to commute to my job and vise versa, it is doable my mum does it 3 days a week but obviously she doesn't have an 18month old to contend with as well and it makes it a 12/13 hours day which seems too much at that age.

Any advice or help is very gratefully received and I answer any questions if I've not been very clear.

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LegoPiecesEverywhere · 10/10/2018 14:16

Can you stay with your Mum while you look for somewhere to rent? Is there anything on Airbnb?

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Magpiefeather · 10/10/2018 14:28

This sounds really difficult. Every time I have moved from one rented place to another I have had to pay the new deposit before getting the old one back, which absolutely sucks but I’m not sure if there’s a way around it (unless you can stay with your mum in between the two tenancies?)

I would start looking for rentals, they don’t all need you to move in straight away. Even if they are advertised as available immediately you might be able to negotiate the start date of your tenency.

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slingingtothemusicinmyhead · 10/10/2018 14:34

Private or social housing?

If in private, you first find the new place. You tell the new landlord how much notice you need to give your old landlord. They should be ok with that, if not, they're not a good landlord.

You then give notice to your old landlord.

You will need to give a deposit on your new place before you get the deposit back from your old place.

If you have no savings, could you get a short term loan from your DM or elsewhere?

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slingingtothemusicinmyhead · 10/10/2018 14:35

With social housing, speak to them about transfers or home swap depending on what they call it in your area.

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Aprilislonggone · 10/10/2018 14:37

Some councils have an accredited landlord list. Some assist with bond /rent. I know a ll who doesn't ask for either. What area do you want to be in?

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Holidayfromreal · 10/10/2018 14:44

It's private rent. I could move in with my parents for a few weeks but they live in a tiny two bed cottage so not ideal but it is an idea.

magpie and slinging thank you I didn't know you could do that this is the first place I've ever rented.

I could ask DM to cover deposit but would prefer not to if I can help it but it doesn't look like I can.

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Holidayfromreal · 10/10/2018 14:45

It's private rent. I could move in with my parents for a few weeks but they live in a tiny two bed cottage so not ideal but it is an idea.

magpie and slinging thank you I didn't know you could do that this is the first place I've ever rented.

I could ask DM to cover deposit but would prefer not to if I can help it but it doesn't look like I can.

I would be moving to Anglesey.

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Qcumber · 10/10/2018 14:57

Just wanted to mention as you say this is the first home you've rented, when you leave and have the place cleaned (or clean it yourself) take LOTS of pictures with a date stamp. Lots of crappy landlords will try anything to keep your deposit and you may need proof that you left the property in a good state. If they try and take any money for things you don't agree with then go through the DPS who will be holding your deposit. They will look at all evidence and give an unbiased ruling. If you deposit is not held within a scheme you can sue the landlord for 3X the deposit amount. Good luck.

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Haberpop · 10/10/2018 15:03

Some local councils offer deposit guarantee schemes, info from Shelter.

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anniehm · 10/10/2018 16:01

My suggestion is that despite space issues you move in with your parents and rent a storage space for your stuff, once you have got your deposit back you can choose a new home and take your time - three months living with your parents could be used to build up a financial buffer so if you need to move again you will have a deposit in reserve.

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