AIBU - neighbour noise, victorian terrace.

[terryandthechocolateorange]

I've wanted to post for a while about this but I'm aware how neighbour noise threads often turn...

However, I've got to the end of my tether so I'd like to hear what people think.

We live in a Victorian mid terrace and are really struggling with noise from one side. The neighbours have two young children who make noise, as kids do. Unfortunately our walls are very thin and noise travels in a big way, I can hear full conversations and just general movement/walking etc all the time.

Now, I appreciate that in the day, there is nothing I can do about hearing them in their house. I'm sure they hear us sometimes. The issue I have is when the noise is at its worst - they struggled with their youngest not sleeping and had her in their room (which is next to our bedroom) for just over a year - waking us up at least twice a night every night with her screaming. Their older child would join them in their room from about 5am, screaming and banging and stamping around. It didn't occur to them to take them to another part of the house when this happened until I had to say something as I was being woken up through earplugs and white noise being played. They were apologetic to an extent but ultimately didn't really take on board how loud they were being. Things got slightly better but are now creeping back to how it was before, with both children being awake and screaming by about 6/6:30am every day.

I am embarrassed to keep having to ask them to be more considerate as I must sound like a broken record. Am I being unreasonable to want to be able to sleep past 6:30am in my own house? I'm currently 38 wks pregnant so they will have to deal with the level of noise my daughter will inevitably make, however I'm already concerned that their children will wake her up and impact on any routine we try and implement.

The mum is a strange character and really struggles with motherhood in general so I'm also acutely aware of not wanting to stress her out any more but we are genuinely thinking of moving house because of all this.

AIBU by being so upset by this or should I just suck it up and get over myself?

Your baby will tell them soon enough how noisy they are! We had similar problems with our old next door neighbours, plus side was when we had babies we felt no guilt when they were screaming in the middlw of the night.
Yes they should take them downstairs but I wouldn’t say anything at this point as your baby will be a game changer so to speak.

I remember being worried as a little kid not to annoy my parents so I tended to behave, I don't know where that feeling came from so I assume I was disciplined before my memories began. Verbal discipline doesn't work before verbal reasoning sets in around age 5/6. You can't reason with a child putting their hand in a fire or on a hot plate, you pull it away.