Who is your ‘go to’? OH or BFF?

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Georgeofthejungle · 09/10/2018 23:50

My husband said something that made me think today.. after a conversation about me moaning about work I said I’m going to phone ‘friend’, that’ll perk me up. And he said ‘do I not perk you up?’.

I tell my DH everything of course. But for advice, chat, support I always look to my best friend. She has her moments, but she really is my rock. Is that strange?

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Aquamarine1029 · 10/10/2018 00:03

It's not strange at all. We all have different dynamics for the various relationships in our lives. For me, my husband is my "go to" for everything. He is my spouse and my best friend. Whenever I need to talk or rant about anything, I always go to him first. No one else compares.

dinosaurkisses · 10/10/2018 00:10

DH is my best mate, easily. He always knows how to cheer me up and gives excellent advice (and importantly, only when asked!).

If I know DH will tell me I’m being unreasonable, I bypass him and talk to my sister as she’s equally as unreasonable as I am.

Shmithecat · 10/10/2018 00:10

Yanbu. I'd call my bff too. My dh isn't my best friend. My bff is. She has been for over 30 years and always will be. I tell my husband most things but not everything.

SerenDippyEggs · 10/10/2018 00:11

Depends what for! They are both my best friends but in different ways

Celebelly · 10/10/2018 00:12

Yep, both best friends but different ways.

My best friend and I have been best friends for nearly 30 years and been through a lot together. There are some times when I just want to talk to her.

Celebelly · 10/10/2018 00:13

Also I wouldn't really refer to DP as my best friend, thinking of it. He's my partner and while there's a lot of overlap, it's not quite the same.

DramaAlpaca · 10/10/2018 00:15

DH is my best friend & my go to person. He's the person I'm closest to, who knows me best & who I'd rather be with than anyone else. There's nobody I'd rather confide in.

PassMeTheBleach · 10/10/2018 00:31

I’ve never really understood the partner being best friend thing. For me, my husband is more than a best friend. They’re two very different relationships.

I know what you mean though. I’d speak to my husband if I wanted to feel comforted, but I’d call my best friend if I wanted someone to perk me up. They play different roles for me

SoyDora · 10/10/2018 00:36

DH isn’t my best friend, he’s my husband. Completely different dynamic to my best friend (obviously). Having said that DH tends to be my ‘go to’ on most things. I do moan a lot to my best friend though!

AcrossthePond55 · 10/10/2018 00:40

Depends on what I need. DH is better with certain situations, BFF is better with others. I'm just glad that DH recognizes his strengths and weaknesses and has no problem if I tell him I need/want to talk to BFF.

AlmostAJillSandwich · 10/10/2018 01:05

my BFF became my OH, so same person :)

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