Is this just toe curling, way TMI?
Finnyhaddock · 09/10/2018 18:50
My Bil announced his daughter was having sex with her boyfriend. He seemed quite proud to be the bearer of this (unwanted) news.
Should something’s be kept quiet or AiBu???
SimplySooty · 09/10/2018 18:52
Need a little bit more context than that... who did he announce to? How did he announce it? Why did he announce it?
Maybe he's feeling uncomfortable about it and felt the need to say something. Even if it did come across as strange...
Who knows op. People are odd.
dolphinhusband · 09/10/2018 18:52
That’s a bit weird, tbh. Did he barge into the room and suddenly announce “ my daughter is having sex!”
hidinginthenightgarden · 09/10/2018 18:54
If I was the daughter I would be fuming that he told everyone!
Finnyhaddock · 09/10/2018 18:55
He more or less just arrived and announced it. She has only just turned 16 and tbh it turned my stomach.
He brought it up again later in the day. He was saying how great the biyfriend was.
I just thought it was odd behaviour- it was as if he was trying to impress us with how ‘cool’ he was.
LonginesPrime · 09/10/2018 19:06
Wtf? Was the daughter there?
Either way, that's totally out of order (and really odd).
HollowTalk · 09/10/2018 19:07
Wow, he really doesn't have any boundaries, does he? I'd be disgusted with my daughter's father if he said that.
kaitlinktm · 09/10/2018 19:08
He has no right to foghorn about her private life to everyone. What a twisted show-off. I would imagine she would be mortified.
YeTalkShiteHen · 09/10/2018 19:09
Er he needs to learn about confidentiality for a start! It’s not his story to tell!
I had this conversation with SIL last week when she was wittering on about my nephew’s sex life. I DON’T WANT TO KNOW!
LonginesPrime · 09/10/2018 19:12
I'm so angry on her behalf.
The poor girl probably has no idea that her parents are telling everyone all of the personal stuff she tells them in confidence.
Balaboosteh · 09/10/2018 22:51
Some families are more open about things than others. Not necessarily a secret. Maybe he’s proud and confused and it feels like a big thing to him and he wants to validate it. Lots of families tell each other such stuff, although they might code it a bit more - like just say, she has a boyfriend now and let you come to the conclusion that she is now sexually active.
Whipsmart · 10/10/2018 12:33
Oh he just wants to show you what a cool dad he is. How mortifying for everyone involved though! I wonder if you could subtly point out that a genuinely cool parent wouldn't be talking about it?
Finnyhaddock · 10/10/2018 18:30
I agree about him wanting to appear ‘cool’. It made me cringe, and she would be mortified!
Some things are best left unsaid!
Glad to know it wasn’t just me being an old prude!
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