What would you do...

[definitelymaybe8]

So I have been in touch recently with an old bf (well I say bf I was about 14 and we were 'going out' which was basically no more than a kiss at the school disco) We have been chatting and he wants us to meet up and I'd like to catch up but he's started being a bit flirty, now I have seen a pic and I don't think I have any romantic inclinations however I think he feels differently. Just to add we are both married he not so happily. How do I deal with this in a nice way? I want to be friends but....sorry to come across a bit naive!

WHat does your dh think? Can you take him with you for any meet up?

I don't think I would go. As flattering as it may be, this is how affairs start - or him making a pass at you and then threatening to tell your DH you kissed.
Not worth the hassle.

now I have seen a pic and I don't think I have any romantic inclinations

Well I’d hope not, as you’re married.

no i really dont think you should

Obviously don’t go

SoyDora my thoughts exactly. What does seeing a pic of him have to do with anything?? Either you want to meet up as friends or not, regardless of what he looks like now?
Oh and don’t go, obviously

however I think he feels differently

That would be enough for me to stop all contact tbh. Not on, and could cause major ructions for you OP.

I had a school pal that I innocently met up with when I was pregnant with DD, turns out the fucker wanted to propose! Ugh. I was about 7 months gone and thankfully DP knew I hadn’t in any way encouraged him. But still.

The easiest way to find out is to tell him that it would be great to meet up and why don't the four of you all meet for a drink/meal or whatever.

What's the point? What would you gain? Nothing, apart from confusion, suspicion and compication!

If you’d seen a picture and found him attractive what would you have done?

Can you make it a group catch up with a few others from school?