To ask for you to talk some sense into me....

[BlackPatch]

Hi, this is my first proper post but I have been lurking around a while. I just need a bit of sense talking into please?

I'm 28 and dh is 33, been married 8 years. I have pcos and we aren't ttc, but this past week we thought I was pregnant. Late period all the usual. Negative tests though. At first I was relieved but I can't help also feeling disappointed. It wouldn't have been ideal to have a baby at the moment as I'm back at uni doing my masters and have a 25000 word thesis to write... but I can't shake this feeling now that something is missing. Dh has a very stressful job and so he doesn't think having children is right for us at this moment in time. How do I stop myself feeling like this?

I had this same (well, similar) thing happen years ago. You saw the potential in it, even if it wasn't right timing yet.
You can't really stop yourself from feeling this way, but it will subside.
It's normal, so don't worry too much.

Good luck with your studies and thesis!

You are feeling a little broody. Quite natural, really.

When will your studies be over?

Could you agree to discuss it with DH after that?

It's very natural to feel the way you do. You're only 28 so there's plenty of time, and you don't know whether you will suffer with morning sickness. Get your thesis done and then start trying.

Also, meant to add - because of the pcos, you might be concerned about being able to conceive, so may have felt a little relief about the possible positive. It may not be a good time, but it would have been confirmation. iyswim.
Sorry if I'm off - but it may be in the back or your mind, and that's why you feel a little disappointed and "something missing".
Just get your thesis done, without distraction now, and you can ttc when things are less hectic!

Thank you all for your supportive comments. I think you are right that it was the possibility that my body may actually work that's caused the questioning. And I didn't think about all the morning sickness etc. I just thought of the lovely bundle of baby!!

Studies will be over by September 2019.

It is very natural to feel this way.
Yes , in your mind you will have prepared yourself for your little bundle.
You will be sad , almost grieving in a way , but it will pass. All the best for the thesis and the future !