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Poppylizzyrose · 09/10/2018 09:15

Morning everyone!

I’m stressing out completely and would love some advice. The stories a long one so appreciate it you can read to the end, have photos and messages I can post if needs be.

Right a friend of mine let’s call her grace recently made up with her friend let’s call her Kelly.

Anyway Kelly is 20 weeks pregnant, and Grace told her I was selling a second hand pram. I’m 31 weeks but my mum had bought me the egg second hand early on. I decided as it didn’t fit in my car I’d sell it. Anyway after being asked I sent photos of the egg to Kelly, she seemed keen then said she’d visit me in mothercare and needed help as she hasnt bought anything yet.

I said I could go around the store helping her and give her list of things she might need. Anyway skip to the day and my managers near by and I can’t give her the attention I thought I could. She ends up looking around with another colleague, I popped up checking she was okay and I’d warmly greeted her ect.

She said she was interested in buying a pram first so I showed her ones on offer in store, I didn’t bring up mine I wanted to sell. She told me she didn’t want to buy it after all, as it was scratched, she wanted new one, didn’t want to spend a lot so I showed her some great offers on bugaboo (FYI lot of boxes stock is being sold cheap so look out) anyway as we were chatting I noticed she hadn’t picked up anything from her list and I doubt I’d have said this to a customer normally but because I do know her through a friend, I was more relaxed and properly thoughtless. I said “oh you’ve not bought anything yet? I’d bought things at 3 months! I couldn’t resist! Although I guess I made mistake now having to sell my egg haha..at least you’re being careful.” She then asked if I could let her use my discount, but she asked right in front of manager so I said I didn’t know as didn’t want to get in trouble.

Anyway we went on to talk about names and her bfs daughter called suggesting a very rude name for the baby! C word. So it was all jokey and friendly talking about step children ect and she waved as she left to me and manager.

Yesterday I was called into office and given a really horrid complaint, in nutshell she said I’d called her an unfit mother because she hadn’t bought a thing. That she’d left in floods of tears, that she didn’t have money to spend and I’d been pressuring her to buy 800 pound egg. Then at end she said my name/nickname. Just so they 100% knew who I was. Thing is I’ve only gone by my name to everyone no one but people outside of this work know my nickname so I knew review was her.

My manager was supportive and said she hadn’t seemed upset, she called to get number of the complaint from head office and I got last 3 numbers from grace to confirm it was her.
Right I might not have been in trouble then but grace (meaning well) sent her a message saying she shouldn’t of complained it was unkind and I’d been trying to help) then Kelly rang the store spoke to a different manager saying she’s had a call and been told to drop the complaint or else. That isn’t true and I’ve seen messages.

Basically I’m very stressed out, my manager is calling Kelly this morning to try and sort. I’m very cross though that I’ve been lied about, I was at work and was professional and I could get in trouble. As she’s customer she can say what she likes and I don’t kno what to do.

I go on maternity leave 2nd November, it’s slander to my name and completely personal. She’s sent horrid messages to grace saying I’m spoilt and things are handed to me. So I think it could be jealously but how is that my fault? Everyone’s got different things and are lucky in different ways...I’m pregnant and single living at home, don’t think I’m that lucky really.

I just don’t want to go into work today at 2 and face it all. Sad

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MrTrebus · 09/10/2018 09:20

Honestly ignore her. Your manager must know it's all bullshit. Block her completely and let your friend know she's not to be any sort of go between anymore. She's a dick of the highest order ignore! Enjoy your newborn when they come along and forget this idiot.

londonrach · 09/10/2018 09:23

Ignore her. Sounds like manager thinks its made up. Dont sell the pram to her what ever you do.

NoSquirrels · 09/10/2018 09:24

Ignore her. Your manager knows you, and will have dealt with stuff like this before. Don’t worry about it, hold your head up high and refuse to get involved in the game-playing.
Flowers

RayRayBidet · 09/10/2018 09:27

It's sour grapes that you wouldn't let her use your discount. The best thing is that your manager was around and witnessed you say no to using it.
It's horrible when someone complains even when you know it's rubbish.
I used to work with the public and had a horrible complaint made about me when was also heavily pregnant and I think that made me take it even worse.
Your manager sounds nice and supportive.
Tbh the manager will probably just apologise to get rid of her. It's unfair but will probably do the job.
I would tell Grace that you don't want to hear what Kelly is saying so stop telling you.
If it's really stressing you out tell your manager, they have a responsibility to take care of you especially if you are pregnant.
Sorry OP, I know exactly how it feels.
The person who complained about me I have since found out is a professional complainer and he set me up because I had some incorrect information about the case and he knew it and didn't point it out so I continued on the wrong track.
It still pisses me off now (it was local government and he took it all the way to the ombudsman who promptly told him to fuck off) and it dragged on for ages.
Take a deep breath and remember you did nothing wrong and you will be on mat leave soon.
Try to keep calm.

Di11y · 09/10/2018 09:27

Ignore her and get this thread deleted. Too identifying, you don't want it found.

SkippedALightFandango · 09/10/2018 09:33

I think she has an ulterior motive and thinks she’s going to get freebies by way of apology. I hope your managers back you up and don’t let her get away with this. Good luck with your little one

JellyBears · 09/10/2018 09:34

Tbh it sounds like your friend is on your side and your manager is on your side. I would block her and not let it upset you anymore she sounds like an attention seeking drama lama.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 09/10/2018 09:42

Honestly it's easy for me to say,but.Please don't be worrying. You have not done a thing wrong. Legally with your condition your manager cannot put any stress on you, even if in the unlikely event she wanted to.
Off the record what's a egg.Confused

Poppylizzyrose · 09/10/2018 09:52

“The only person who can sack you is me and that’s not going to happen. I’m not concerned about your behaviour with customers. There is no need to worry, I will give you the feedback from the call when I see you”

My manager text me this. So I do feel a bit calmer. Thanks for all your replies Flowers I wonder if it is a ruse for free things but I can’t do anything to stop her. I just hope it’s properly dropped and I can move on.

Oh and an egg is a brand name for a type of pram. I’m keeping it as it turns out and will sell after I’ve got some use for it. My dad talked me into keeping it as they can fit it in the car and they might use it to take her out.

Thanks again Flowers

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Pickleypickles · 09/10/2018 09:55

Sounds like the manager knows she's chatting bollocko I woukd try not to worry and go into work with you head held high - you didn't do anything wrong as far as I can see.

I once had a customer write a letter complaining about me to my manager and threatening to sue the company £1600 (apparently his hourly rate Hmm ) because id been rude unhelpful and wasted his time. It was a really horrible letter and a bit of a personal attack. Luckily the manager knew the customer was chatting out his arse as he had heard the conversation but it doesn't make it any less horrible at the time.

MrsChollySawcutt · 09/10/2018 10:07

Glad your manager has supported you. Steer well clear of this woman she is clearly trouble. I suspect her only interest in meeting you was to use your discount and when that didn't pan out she made a complaint hoping for a voucher or freebies.

Enjoy your mat leave Thanks

explodingkitten · 09/10/2018 10:42

Fake complainers can fuck off.

I once had a complaint that I wasn't taking my job seriously because I was too nice on the phone. I wish that I was making it up.

I also had a complaint once about an appointment. Some new management assistent had to make an appointment to discuss employees with HR. I said fine, when would Mr. X like to discuss it and which employees is it about. She got really angry that I didn't know. Out of 12.000 employees I should know this information. She really wouldn't understand that it was imposdible for me to know that. My manager had a good laugh about that one.

UserName31456789 · 09/10/2018 10:47

She sounds horrible - she probably wanted to use you for your discount and was annoyed you weren't willing to risk getting fired for her. You haven't done anything wrong. You didn't message her (do you have screen shots of the messages your friend sent?). Your manager saw her leaving, not upset. I would just do nothing and try to ignore it, it's obviously a malicious complaint. If you're forced to complain I would explain honestly - she's a friend of a friend who wanted to use your discount and you correctly refused to let her.

Bombardier25966 · 09/10/2018 10:49

Please get this thread deleted. You've given far much identifying information. If Kelly is reading and reported this to your work, you would be in trouble.

Sparklesocks · 09/10/2018 11:44

Sounds like your manager is on your side and handling it all properly. I know it’s stressful but try not to let it get to you, you know what happened and your manager does to.

But don’t contact Kelly again, anything you say might be used as more ammo. It would probably be best to block and delete her info.

Retail managers know what customers are like. If you have a solid record at your workplace and people can vouch for you I’m sure it’ll be fine.

I used to work in a high street fashion shop and once got complained about as a woman tried to return a denim skirt which was covered in dirt all over the bum. It was in terrible condition and never could’ve been re-sold. She’d obviously worn it out, fallen over (or worse..) and was trying her luck. Conveniently the tags were apparently not on when she’d bought it…I was very polite and explained our returns policy and I couldn’t accept it. She was very pleasant and left…but later that day a complaint was made about how I’d rudely refused a perfectly acceptable return, ‘humiliated’ the customer by not doing the return in front of a line of customers who were watching. My colleague on the till with me at the time backed me up, but it was very stressful and upsetting.

Sunflowersforever · 09/10/2018 19:07

No good turn goes unpunished.

Sounds like your manager has it in hand. If anything changes (and I doubt it) then you can call on union representation. This is sometimes available for workers who can't afford to join a union.

Your child will have you as a mother, not an a hole 'Kelly'. Pity her poor mite with that manipulative approach. Thanks

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