To consider a private delivery of a baby to try and avoid the trauma I had last timev

[shouldidoitspoilt]

Would be a c section planned (hopefully?)
London
Is it worth the money?

I had a truly truly awful and terrifying pregnancy last time.

Should I do it?
It would involve some sacrifices to fund it

How much did you spend?

I was thinking of doing the delivery privately and the appointments by NHS
If I am poorly then the whole thing to be managed privately

There are some absolutely horrendous stories here. My heart breaks for you @TubbyTubster

A C Section is safer then a big wound in your front bum linked up to your back bum where it's moist and full of bacteria.
It's safer if emotionally you are not available to give your body to a "natural" delivery.
There is a reason why a c section exists and that is because in many cases it is safer to deliver a baby in a controlled manner then without a plan and inside vision of the body!!
I really resent people who spurt out bollocks about c sections buggering you.
I was walking a mile 1 week after c section and sexually active again very quickly. It's not a brag it's just how I coped.

If you're in the south east I recommend
Kent midwifery, get Kay To help. She is incredible

OP, definitely have a gentle caesarean if it's offered. I had the curtain lowered for the actually moment of delivery so we could see her being born (you don't see the incision, just the baby being lifted up) and DD was delivered from the womb directly into my arms, they'd tugged my gown down so she was lying on my chest while I held her. They waited for the cord to stop pulsing before it was clamped/cut and DH was able to cut it then curtain went up and, aside from 30 seconds to pop a nappy on her, DD stayed bare skinned on my bare chest with a little blanket over the two of us for the whole time they were stitching me up. We just lay there looking at each other, sniffing her little head, all warm and snuffly. It was beautiful. They wrote down in a little card what song was playing and what our first words were to her. There were no checks done in theatre other than APGAR and they waited until recovery to do the weighing and measuring so that we could have those very first moments together.

Also after a c section you are buggered physically

I've had 2 emergency sections. With my first I was up and dressed including tights by the time the midwife in charge of the postnatal ward popped her head around the curtain to introduce herself. I think ds was 5 hours old. 24 hours later saw me wandering around straight backed as I climbed stairs to NICU.

Second one, I was in the shower on my own when dd was 7 hours old and dancing at Messy Church with ds when she was 2 days old having already been out for lunch.

She's currently 4 months old and you can't see my scar any more. My poor SiL is still struggling with the after effects of her "easy" vaginal birth 11 years later.

I second EwItsAHooman. My second was a lot less of an emergency and watching her coming out, holding her almost immediately, no checks/measurements until recovery etc was amazing.

Hi all, can I pls get some recommendations for private c section in London and can it be booked at 36 weeks or is that too late? Many thanks

@shouldidoitspoilt what have you decided to do?
I realise that this post was several weeks ago, but I would suggest that a good place to start would be a debriefing session going through what happened for you so that you are totally clear what the issues were. This will make it much easier to plan what would make this time better for you, to share this with potential care providers and so on.