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AIBU to up sticks and move to the country?

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TheNightIsForever · 08/10/2018 17:49

Well, not in the middle of nowhere but a little village on the border of Lancs/Yorks. Beautiful countryside, stunning views. Great schools.
Where we currently are is in the middle of an estate, where it's normal for kids as young as 3 to be out on the street calling other people cunts. We've been here 10 years and a new family has rocked up who are less than desirable.

It's only about 40miles away from where we currently live but ExH is kicking off a fuss because I'm moving the kids away from him.

Apparently I am being selfish and unreasonable in moving and I'm expecting the same from his parents. So am I being unreasonable? Should I just put up and shut up and carry on living miserably on this crummy estate?

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ErrolTheDragon · 08/10/2018 17:56

YANBU.

It sounds like it's way the best option for your kids and they'd be selfish to impede the move.

40 miles isn't very far (leastwise, if people have cars).

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HisBetterHalf · 08/10/2018 18:12

why should your children be expected to live by foul mouthed tramps. Do the best for them

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MyKingdomforaNameChange · 08/10/2018 18:16

Do it. I did, and have never regretted it!

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PoisonousSmurf · 08/10/2018 18:19

There can be louts out in the countryside and in small villages. But at least there are fewer of them and everyone knows each other, so most of the time they don't get away with being 'uncouth'.
Move away asap!

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SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 08/10/2018 18:26

Move!

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Rayn · 08/10/2018 18:30

Do it! I had that option years ago and wish I did! Kids at high school doing GCSEs so can't do it now! Would have been easier when they were little and 40 miles is not that far!

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TheNightIsForever · 08/10/2018 20:13

Thank you everyone. The kids are still young enough that a school move won't really affect them. Eldest DD has just started high school so no exams or anything.

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happinessischocolate · 08/10/2018 20:16

Move, 40 miles is nothing, I drive that far to work everyday.

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anniehm · 08/10/2018 21:01

Move, but as you are the one moving away, offer to be reasonably flexible with access eg driving them one way for instance.

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Livedandlearned2 · 08/10/2018 21:02

Best thing I ever did!

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