AIBU to think you should put your children first above other vulnerable and needy people in the community?? I have a friend who is extremely active in the community, she takes old people shopping, she does an awful lot of fundraising for different things, she helps in a soup kitchen and she also takes the homeless into her own home AND she posts it all on facebook. IMO all this help is causing her children unnecessary stress. Her kids come second to her community work. I have her 11 yr old sleeping over for the second night as her bed has been taken over by a homeless lady, so she is expected to sleep in the lounge. There is also another homeless person living with them at the moment and her daughter hates being at home. They can't ever go out as a family anymore as her mum "is busy helping people in the community less fortunate than them". The 7 yr old spends most of the time at her grandad's as "mum likes poor people more than us". Her eldest DD has spent most of the weekend with us and I really don't want her sleeping another night as it puts pressure on my own family but she is adamant she isn't going home. She is seen as an absolute gem in our community and her amazing work is very much appreciated but surely her own children's needs and happiness should come first - or am I being selfish.