Cousin driving me nuts...

[CheNina]

I have a cousin who is more like an aunt to me. We were really close until I was about 15 and of course life got in the way, I went to uni at 18 in a different country. We aren't really close now and that's sadly just life. I'm now 28.

I'm pregnant at the moment, and my cousin is driving me insane. We have seen each other a couple of times in the last few weeks but only because I've been visiting other people nearby and she's got wind.

She text me yesterday asking if I was free to talk. I said I had been in the hospital and was on my way home so not free tonight. She then text to say she would call in an hour. I was driving so didn't reply. I just got home and she's sent me another text saying 'can I call?' - she hasn't asked about my hospital appointment, and hasn't considered that I might not want to talk. She's now called twice and I am sat here ignoring my phone. She does this every week and it's starting to drive me insane.

If it were me, I would just send a text, 'hope you're okay, hope appointment went okay, call when you're ready'

My hospital appointment was because I'm pregnant and they are worried about my baby. My cousin knows this. She's well aware. I don't want to talk, to anyone (apart from maybe mn) because I'm so stressed and am planning on potentially being induced next week on Wednesday, early.

How do I stop myself from exploding at her? I'm starting to resent her and really, really dislike her.

Everything seems more irritating because of hormones, been there, personally I would send her a text back to nip it in the bud and just say.... “Hi, saw you have called/text. Not in mood to chat at mo, speak another time”.

Tell her what an intrusive twat she's being and then ignore ignore ignore.

Can you try and set a time to call her as in Can't talk now, I will call you tomorrow. Could she be wanting to call to ask about your hospital appointment and the Baby. Don't let her stress you out but alternatively, don't blow your boats for no reason

Is it possible she needs to speak to you about something else?

Why don’t you just message her to say that you don’t want to talk currently, nothing personal, just concentrating on issues with the baby and sorry to not be available until [insert date in future]. It will stop her bothering you.

Could she be worrying about you?

@Stillme1 definitely not! I had a hospital appointment a while back that I was really worried about. She phoned me the day after and didn't ask how it went, how baby was etc. Fine, but it's not nice having to listen to someone's trivial work issues about dress code and who bitches about who when you're sat home worrying about the health of your baby. I'm just finding her such hard work.

Chenina It was just a suggestion. I would be worried about a relative going through what you are. Wishing the best for you

She is asking if she can call. You're perfectly fine to say no thanks. Just tell her you'll be in touch when you're feeling up to it but have got a lot on at the mo. Then keep ignoring. Good luck with everything. Take care.