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To tell oh to fuck off

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ohgiveitadayoff · 08/10/2018 16:49

I'm back at uni today I have dd who is four weeks old and DS who is nearly two who goes to nursery for 4hours.

I got up at 6 got them both ready took DS to nursery come back home to study look after DD.

Back to pick ds up from nursery at 12:30 then food shopping with the both of them. Back home to study for another hour cook dinner.

But apparently I'm selfish because I haven't cleaned the house and what have I been doing all day! On top of that I'm sleep deprived.

I could fucking kill him Angry

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AngelsSins · 08/10/2018 16:52

What a prick, it’s amazing how many men seem to think that having a baby means their partners turn into the house skivvy

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AmIRightOrAMeringue · 08/10/2018 17:02

I wasn't expected to do any housework when I was on mat leave with a 4 week old baby. As I had a 4 week old baby. Literally all I had to do was look after her! As she got older I did more around the house again but we still pretty much split housework. I'd have been livid if my OH had said this and also it would worry me how stupid or lacking in imagination and empathy he was to not realise the time and energy it takes to look after one kid let alone two and study at the same time.

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HollowTalk · 08/10/2018 17:06

Your husband isn't a nice man at all, OP.

I'm very impressed with you studying anything when your baby is 4 weeks old!

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ohgiveitadayoff · 08/10/2018 17:07

@AmIRightOrAMeringue exactly I think he thinks I'm superwoman.

I've come up to bed and left him with them both crying l need a rest.

Thank you @HollowTalk

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HollowTalk · 08/10/2018 17:10

Honestly, I think it's amazing what you've done. He's a complete idiot. And all this is about is him being lazy, isn't it, because he doesn't want to do anything. And him being resentful, thinking you're on your holidays, instead of you taking care of two small children just after going through giving birth.

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AornisHades · 08/10/2018 17:14

At this point dh was leaving sandwiches in the fridge to make sure we ate during the day. Your dh is an arse.

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Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 08/10/2018 17:20

Christ above, I think you are superwoman.
He's a knob.

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PlinkPlink · 08/10/2018 17:29

You are amazing OP. I did fuck all in the first 8 weeks πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ DS was constantly attached to my boob. Even contemplating going down to the lounge and leaving the comfort of our bed was stressful πŸ˜‚

Your OH on the other hand is a prize tosser in this situation and needs to get back in his fucking box Angry

Tell him you've just given birth to a baby. For the past 9 months you have sacrificed alcohol, cheese and a variety of other goodies to carry his and your child, you've had your organs shoved where they are normally not shoved, dealt with hormones and being sick and peeing all the time.
On top of that you are studying and doing all the fucking childcare whilst he gets to carry on with his fucking career.
And add in making the food for all of you.
If at any point that sounds appealing to him and he wants to swap... by all fucking means mate!

I'm guessing he won't want to though!

I say again, tell him to get back in his fucking box

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