To be a bit annoyed by ‘& guest’

[Peopleplease]

A relation (their mothers are first cousins, whatever that makes them) of DH is getting married soon.

The families are pretty close, the groom has worked on our house and met me numerous times. DH and I have been married 7 years.

The invite (which is for the evening) has come to ‘DH & Guest’. I’m actually a little annoyed. It would have been easy to find out my name if they had forgotten.

Haha, I’ve been married 37 years to the same man. Every Xmas an aunt sends a card addressed to ‘husbands name, ‘wife’ (ie me!) and kids’ names’. They can remember the kids’ names but not mine. Actually, she does remember mine, she just doesn’t use it. Used to drive me mad.

So imagine the scenario
Bride or STB MIL asks groom for list of his guests for the wedding and he says 'MrPeoplepeople and his wife, amongst others'. MIL writes out invitations and doesn't like to put 'wife' in case you're not, so puts 'guest'.

Nothing insulting meant by it, just a simple case of not knowing your name, in a bit of a rush and wouldn't know who to ask for clarification anyway. It definitely a first world problem and not worth loosing sleep over.
The way you started your post, thought you were going to say only DH had been invited.

The invitation has come from the bride's side and the groom hasn't checked them. That's all that's happened.

I would never address a woman by her husbands name unless I was sure it was ok, but in this case what is matter with mr & Mrs dh's name (e.g. Dave please or d please)
The pickle sandwiches could have been and family to include the baby.

I think second cousins. Removed is when they are a different generation, like your dad's cousin. we could google it, but it's fun to guess.

..... my partner's (of 11 years, plus we have two children) sister sent an invite to her wedding to him '+ one'. But she did it deliberately as she's a little bitch. Partner went alone, I stayed at home and had a much more enjoyable evening watching netflix in my pj's :-D

Wow, I didn’t actually expect this many replies. I’m not really bothered by it, just a little annoyed. We’ve not been invited to the whole wedding - just the evening (is that a thing in the UK? You’re not invited to the church or meal but the music bit??).

It actually says on the invite that the ceremony is for close family only (DHs brother got invited to that bit as well though)

Definitely second cousins. First cousins removed would be if your cousin had a child, then they are your first cousin once removed.

But I agree it's very rude, it's not that complicated to find out your wedding guests names. Besides they'll need it for the table plan surely?

Just saw your update, I wouldn't bother going if it's just the afters your invited to