I've name changed for this, know I'm not being unreasonable, but looking for a little help.
DS is 13, his dad has paid £50/month for about 5 years.
I recently put a claim into the CMS as I thought I needed to put DS first and start claiming what he deserves. The money goes into his ISA, to be used when/if he hopefully goes to university.
When the claim went in, DS's dad lost his job, he started work again in August and CMS recalulated and the first payment was due in October. It was calculated at £250/month.
DS's dad left a message to say he had increased the payment to £75 but simply couldn't afford what they were asking.
I don't want to have a call with him, because it just turns into a load of woe betide me crap that really frustrates me. I have had enough over 13 years of the excuses and listening to how bad his life has been, so I want to send a message that tells him that the figure from CMS is non-negotiable, but I can't seem to not sound like a bitch when I type something out.
I want to appear reasonable, if I go in all guns blazing, I don't doubt he'll loose his job again and it'll be pointless.
I also want to give him the chance to actually pay the right figure without doing the collect and pay which will cost him a lot more.
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BloodyNightmare · 08/10/2018 07:50
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