Can I ask about court orders ?

[calamariandporridge]

I know this is a question which can differ in many ways but I need some quick advice.

I have a court order for my about to turn 3 year old. It was made about 3 months after he was born. It had things in it like "father will have dc from Sunday am to Monday pm" and "father will have dc for 2 weeks holiday a year, spread either 2 lots of 1 week or a 2 week block".

Now my question is, if he hasn't kept to these orders (changing jobs like the wind, and dropping with no notice to 1 day every 2 weeks then can I do something about it ? I know the whole thing of , you can't make them have them , but still. I asked him how many days off he has a week, he said 1, I asked why he couldn't have his child on that day each week- answer was "so I don't get a day off?" YES MATE!

So pissed off, I was planning on going away Xmas eve to Boxing Day lunch as it's his turn t to have dc this year but he is refusing.

Keep a record of it and reasons incaae it ever gets returned to court but generally you cant use court to force someone to see their child

I know that you can't but it's unbelievable the way some people are. He had a second child (by one night stand) on my dc's birthday too. That cut the old maintenance in half , his running costs didn't suddenly go down!

Bet the second you said he couldn't have him he'd complain

I said alright we will just have him for Xmas this year then and he said "I'll take you back to court". Sigh. Hate confrontation. Had a shitty Xmas last year as my mum was seriously ill and has now died so no family support. DH is being fabulous.

Just feel so bloody down about it all. Worst mistake of my life having DC with that twunt.

Just have your DC over Christmas, enjoy and have a lovely time. Completely blank him and tell him you'll see him in court.

He's now changed his tune and is saying he will have him Xmas eve to Boxing Day eve

I'm not bothered about him taking me back to court. I just find it so exhausting to have confrontation about dc when there is no need.

Let him just keep all your notes.

Hope you manage a good day either way, the first one is tough