to feel down about not being able to stay with mum?

[TreeAnna]

My mum lives 300 miles away from me. I'm due my first DC. Dad died when I was young. DC due in December. My mum lives in a house share and wants to buy a house. Problem is there's nothing on the market she likes and is being very picky (rightly so). I can't stay in the house with a baby due to her sharing with others. The landlord has said no (adults only) and she is tied in to a 6 month lease so can't leave to rent elsewhere.

I'm going to have to stay with my aunt who is not very well, or pay for a b&b every time I want to visit my mum.

AIBU to be upset by this? I'm worried I won't be able to visit her as it'll just be tedious and she doesn't drive so can't get to me. She's too far to just visit for the day. How do I get around this?

If only her dream house would materialise and she could put an offer in...

She could get public transport and visit you

She could be a little bit less fussy about a house

@MrTrebus agree with the fussiness. I don't want her to settle for any old house, but it's hard to persuade someone not to be fussy with their life savings

We are both very rural so public transport is a complete nightmare! Turns a 4 hour journey in to an 8 hour journey and with us both working ft I don't know how to work it.

Anxiety central!

When you are a new mum, it's much easier for people (that you want to see) to come to visit you. Don't forget all the baby kit. Once your mum has met the baby, it might galvanise her into action.

Being in a house share out of choice (and not financial need) is such an uncommon housing situation I wonder if she is scared of living alone or cannot actually afford a house so is making excuses why every house on the market is unsuitable.