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llmorris · 07/10/2018 18:24

Hey everyone, wanted a bit of advice. Me and DH are due to have our little boy by planned caesarean on October 15th. πŸ‘ΆπŸ»πŸ’™ which obviously we are over joyed with as its our first.

I'm really close with my Mum, she's like a best friend to me we hang out, go for coffee, go shopping etc. My mum has been through heartache so many times over men cheating on her etc. She has been married 4 times, been cheated on 3 times and 1 marriage broke down. I have lived through all of this. Her current husband has been sending messages, (EXPLICIT KIND) including pictures in bath etc, whilst my mum has been at work to another woman. My mum phoned me crying, on facetime and I was so upset by this. I started to cry to, I have always been her shoulder to cry on. I told her to leave him and come live with me and DH just to help her out but her being so strong and independent she has stayed at home as its her house. She gave her husband a hard time and has now however "forgiven" him. I expressed my concerns and told her I do not want him to meet my son until he has proved himself to her and that he really wants to be with her in the long run. Because I don't want him to meet him then not be there the next minute if she isn't happy.
She told me he "understands" and is willing to wait.
But I got a message today saying she bought him a new phone and she has put mine and DH numbers in it and hopes one day we can be a family again.

I responded, yes I have told you we will but in time, i haven't even started to deal with that situation yet as my son comes first. As he due date is so near. She told me to just try and forget about it but I'm just not ready.

What does everyone think? Am I being unreasonable? I just don't want people walking in and out of my sons life, and I don't believe in a matter of weeks and it just so happens my son will be born next week makes it all "ok" again. He hurt my mother and I find it hard to deal with. Its not about her husband its about my son, he needs to understand that.

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