We recently lost our premature baby son when he was just under a week old. Obviously my partner and I have been completely grief stricken and I’ve been struggling to cope. I tried contacting some baby loss charities and being on forums but found it didn’t help and actually made me feel worse. This week, two months after losing our son, I was desperately trying to find help and came across some details for the bereavement midwife at the hospital. I emailed her and she got back to me a couple of days later saying she knew about us and our baby (she quoted his name and my partner’s name) and offered to come and visit me the following week. Am I being unreasonable to feel that she should have proactively contacted us rather than waiting for me to get in touch more than 8 weeks later? I have had two stillbirths in the past and in both those cases the bereavement midwife came to see us before we left the hospital and kept in contact with us after we had got home. I understand the NHS is stretched but a quick phone call would have been so appreciated. The hospital in question has made a number of errors with administration which have added to our stress including sending me letters telling me off for not turning up to growth scam appointments even though my baby had been born and died by the time the appointments were due to take place. I thought it was the role of the bereavement midwife to try to ensure this type of thing didn’t happen. I actually had to call the antenatal clinic to cancel my own appointments and tell them why I didn’t need them anymore.