By everyone, I mean mine and DH's families. Im 22 and DH is 26 and DD is 13 months old. We've decided to expand our little family because we don't want too big of an age gap between DD and future child but also because we're financially and emotionally ready for a second baby. My mum is dying for us to have a baby, so the rant isn't aimed at her. My dad, DMIL, DSMIL, DFIL all have lectured us over our decision to have another child. After DD was born they recommend conceptions for us to use and although we thought it was odd we took it as them just trying to help make sure there was no unwanted pregnancies for me and DH. Now were pretty sure it's because they do not want us to have another child! They seem to think we aren't financially stable and we wouldn't cope as parents of two. DMIL says numerous times how surprised she is of how well were doing with DD, she expected us to be exhausted, irritable zombies or something. We are hurt about the amount of suprise our families have that were capable parents of DD and we have no idea why they even thought we'd fail at parenthood (not saying we're the perfect parents but nobody just assumes you're gonna be a crap parent without reason to believe so). We have confronted family members on their beliefs and they just said it's because of our working hours, my age, DH's inexperience of children (he has no siblings and no younger relatives he knows).
DSMIL seems to be the worst one for trying to control our lives. She has lied about us to DFIL (who will believe her every time) and often lectures us like we're 10 year olds. She once lectured us on spending £16 on a toy for DD and said we should be saving our money so we can have spare money (even though we have plenty of spare money already).
How do I get them to stop being so controlling?