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DH always bloody interrupting

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YouCantCallMeBetty · 06/10/2018 21:29

I've just snapped at DH during a conversation for interrupting me again. AIBU to mostly expect him to hear me out? I get that everyone interrupts sometimes. We were talking about something quite emotive so I was a bit on edge anyway but just lost it with him. He'd done it a couple of times already in the conversation and I'd asked him to let me finish but just got fed up after the third time. This often happens in our conversations and it really puts me off talking to him about anything.
I've tried the 'just keep talking' technique but he does that too and I end up giving in.
How else do you deal with interrupters?

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babswindsor · 07/10/2018 07:13

an old ex used to interrupt me all the time too. And as someone above said, you could see him not listening to me, just building up to a massive interrupt. he also used to finish my sentences . It would get really silly, e.g.
me: I was thinking of getting a...
him interrupting: lawnmower
me: No, a....
him interrupting: new bag
me: no, a...

When I began the big 'it's over' conversation, he interrupted me!!

Passthecake30 · 07/10/2018 07:17

I used to do this all the time and realised the error of my ways. Now it really winds me up when it's done to me. What I do, is once the person has interrupted, just move on and go back to doing what I was doing before I attempted to talk. Some people do realise what they have done and it's entertaining watching them try to undo the damage. Or, when they stop talking I'll say "hmm, I was trying to tell you something but I can't remember what it was as you interrupted me" and wander off etc.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 07/10/2018 07:18

My Mum is an ’interrupter’ - Drives Me Nuts. I often say ‘No, that’s not what I was saying. If you listened instead, you’d know what I WAS going to say’, but she just gets huffy. It’s lose/lose really 😣

I couldn’t put up with it in a partner. I’d have to try a few different techniques and if I couldn’t stop him , it would be the end.

pinkpopcorn · 07/10/2018 07:18

I had a friend like this, in the end I just ignored the fact she was talking over me and just continued talking.

FloofyDoof · 07/10/2018 07:30

My ex used to interrupt me constantly, as a pp said, it was like he was never listening to me, just waiting until he could talk. He even did it when we went to couples therapy to try and sort our relationship, mostly our inability to communicate properly. Even with the counsellor pulling him up on it he still refused to believe that he did it. Fucking twat that he is.

I don't know how to fix it, but you definitely have my sympathies, it's infuriating and really gets to you over time.

WerewolfNumber1 · 07/10/2018 07:39

Oh god I nearly started this thread yesterday.

Stop fucking interrupting me! It’s so annoying.

He especially tends to do it when I’m talking to DS - so DS asks something, I’m 4 words into answering and DH starts talking over me (saying the same thing).

DS is almost 4 and we’re (or at least I’m) teaching him not to interrupt, am sort of hoping DH picks up on it....

Mum2OneTeen · 07/10/2018 07:51

Mine does that, drives me fucking nuts!

I now just say "I haven't finished yet", still pisses me off though. He's a bit deaf, but I just think he's being incredibly rude.

BeatriceJoanna · 07/10/2018 08:43

It sounds as though you were talking non stop, OP, and that was the only way the poor man could get a word in! A conversation is two-way, you know

Isn't it interesting. A rude bastard who doesn't listen and talks over his wife habitually has become a nagged at poor man on no evidence whatsoever.

My late husband used not to listen/ constantly interrupt me. I would pull him up about it but he never actually stopped doing it.
He was also a complete know-it-all and could never leave me to get on with anything without interfering. He once started to tell me how to knit - I'd been knitting since I was seven years old and he'd never picked up a knitting needle in his life. Hmm

Upsy1981 · 07/10/2018 09:10

My MIL used to be terrible at this. She'd walk into a room and just start new conversation regardless of the fact every one in the room was already in the middle of a conversation. He husband seems to have largely cured her of it. He does pull her up on it.

YouCantCallMeBetty · 07/10/2018 09:24

Thanks everyone for the solidarity! I think he has improved a bit over the course of our marriage but still does it often, along with other conversational quirks like interrupting me mid sentence to point out a squirrel in the garden/something funny the cat is doing. He's not as bad as some examples (can't believe the knitting one!) but it does drive me potty, especially when he's trying to finish my sentence and is way off the mark. I will persevere with the suggestions and see where we get to.
He might pop up on AIBU soon with 'my DW walks away from me every time I interrupt her, AIBU to expect her to just smile and tolerate it?' Grin

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