To Make him sleep on the sofa?

[LongHotSummer24715]

My friend bought me a spa day as a birthday present which I finally used today, birthday was in July. Shorty after I got home our 3 year old DS fell off the sofa & banged his little head. I ran to scoop him up & DH husband came into the room to check on him. The first thing he said was 'I've been here all day & he's been fine. You shouldn't have left him alone'
We were BOTH in the kitchen talking with the door to the living room open where we could see DS. I hadn't left him there in the first place he was in that seat when I got home. If I thought he was going to fall I would have moved him. How is this my fault?

DS is asleep now I'm going to keep him in with me tonight to make sure he's okay.

DS has fallen and hurt himself before as he's a boisterous toddler. I've never blamed DH when it's under his care. How is it all my fault just because I'm in the house? I'm pregnant and due in 3 weeks - I can't stop crying with guilt which I probably wouldn't have felt if DH hadn't put on me.

AIBU to lock the bedroom door so DH has to sleep on the sofa?

Not your fault, that was a dick move by your 'D' H, perhaps because you dare ventured out for a spa day and left him looking after his own child (the shock!), so he's leapt on giving you a nice dollop of mum guilt as your punishment. Ah, you bad mummy you, won't have anymore you time now will you. Screw that! Lock the fucker out!

DD fell off the sofa, and it WAS while under DH's watch. He blamed himself but I never did, and told him it wasn't his fault, these things happen and she was ok after a quick check up. I would never have thrown it out there that she got hurt because of him!

Ridiculous. And he’s 3!!!! Who would supervise a 3 yr old on a sofa!

Ask your DH what’s really crawled up his ass because he’s clearly trying to get at you for some reason.

You have nothing to be guilty about it was an accident! I feel for you a toddler and about to have two babies at home one your husband.

Locking him out without explanation over something he said hours ago seems counterproductive.

Maybe saying "Hey, I don't know if you realised, but what you said earlier was really hurtful, and not what I needed when I've just had a lovely morning at a spa and am heavily pregnant. We were both in the kitchen, and these things happen from time to time anyway. Blaming me was really unfair, and is there anything else you think we need to discuss? Because now I'm a bit pissed off with you and just wanted to see what you thought about the whole thing." would get a better result.

Your mileage might vary though.