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One more Stop!

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CircleofWillis · 06/10/2018 20:00

My DH, DC and I are abroad at the moment. Today we were travelling on public transport with my DH who had the city map and was navigating. Our train stopped at a station and DH announced "One more stop". Consequently, I gathered small child and bags together and rose as we approached the next station only for my DH to stop me saying "No, it's the one after this". I objected saying "you just said it was the next stop" he answered "NO I SAID IT THERE WAS ONE MORE STOP. THIS IS THE LAST STOP BEFORE WE GET OFF". (My caps - he wasn't shouting). His navigation carried on like this for the rest of the journey. I am thoroughly annoyed and frazzled as a result.

AIBU to find this confusing and bizarre? Surely when someone says "One more stop, two more stops" etc the final stop is when you get off not the stop before?

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SadieAB9 · 07/10/2018 07:17

I'm with him! One more stop means there one stop and then ours. Next stop means we get off at the next stop!

MrsMozart · 07/10/2018 07:19

Sorry OP, I too am with your DH Grin

wombat1a · 07/10/2018 07:24

Dh is right, you are wrong.

mussie · 07/10/2018 07:52

OP I'm with you! I have never heard anyone count stops like that before. I'm so surprised to see so many people do it!

Ecofluffynanny · 07/10/2018 08:21

I'm with your DH...one MORE stop (before our stop). You wouldn't need the word MORE would you, if you were actually getting off...YOUR stop is the 'next stop'. The implication is that it's the number of times the train needs to 'stop' BEFORE you get off.

I'm astonished that this needs explaining quite so implicitly 😂 it's given me a headache 😂😂 🤦‍♀️

Nothisispatrick · 07/10/2018 08:22

I agree with your DH too, sorry! Next stop would mean you’re getting off at the next stop, one more would mean the stop after next.

NoLeslie · 07/10/2018 08:25

I'm with your DH- however he said it at the wrong time. He shouldnt have said it when you were at a stop. The law is to say it inbetween stops whilst moving. Then it's not confusing.

huggybear · 07/10/2018 08:26

I agree with you OP.

LucieMorningstar · 07/10/2018 08:32

My husband does similar when talking about the week. For example, today being Sunday, he would talk of tomorrow as “this week”, but to me “this week” is today and the days before. I refer to “next week” as tomorrow onwards, but to him “next week” is the next Monday onwards. He’s kind of a fortnight ahead of himself IMO.

Oysterbabe · 07/10/2018 09:03

To the PPs (the majority) who also use the phrase this way... is there an implicit "and then it's our stop" which is running through your mind?

Yes exactly this.

Original poster
CircleofWillis · 07/10/2018 09:20

OK, thank you everyone. I am now fortified against any travelling we do today. I’ll either grin and bear it and attempt to adopt the illogical, or grab the map and be the navigator from now on.

We’ve been together for 15 years and this is the first time I’ve realised we have such a fundamental difference.

Lucie I am not even going to ask him about ‘next week’. A marriage can only stand so much conflict without imploding.

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iliketomoveitmoveitMOVEIT · 07/10/2018 09:28

He is right. Because the stop is where the train stops, not you - you get out after the “one more”.

Source: 25 years of using the tube 😂

Topseyt · 07/10/2018 09:28

It would have been much clearer if he had said that you were getting off at the stop after next. What he said was a bit ambiguous and could have meant either.

StrawberrySquash · 07/10/2018 09:41

No, OP! You have to ask about 'next week'. My poor friend arranged to meet her other friend 'next Tuesday' and turned up on entirely the wrong day. Since that I always clarify that people mean Tuesday the 15, or whatever.
Last Friday (nine days ago) my friend even said she was up for doing something on Saturday and I had to look back to previous messages to realise she meant what is now yesterday.

NoLeslie · 07/10/2018 09:44

OP, ask him about next week, this Tuesday and update the thread. So we can all guess (a) when you will do that and (b) what the answer is Grin

FrancisCrawford · 07/10/2018 09:46

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Tahani · 07/10/2018 09:57

one more means, theres one more stop and then its our one otherwise it would be next stop ?

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CircleofWillis · 07/10/2018 10:13

But Iliketomoveit I have been using the tube for over 30 years which is why I’m so flummoxed. According to 2/3rds of you I’ve been doing it wrong for most of my life.

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SausageOnAFork · 07/10/2018 10:17

Thinking about the ‘this week’ thing. If someone said ‘one more week until Christmas’ you’d understand that there is one week yet to pass and then it is Christmas. You would think that means that it’s Christmas right now would you.

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CircleofWillis · 07/10/2018 10:25

Sausage I will say ‘one more week until Christmas’ on the 18th December. Using my husband’s train stop logic he will say ‘one more week before Christmas’ on 11th December.

OP posts:
Tahani · 07/10/2018 10:27

just checked with DH - one more stop means next stop, however, you wouldnt say one more stop, you would say 'next stop'

LegoMonkeys · 07/10/2018 10:51

I think what he said is confusing and probably would have asked at the time as I wouldn't have been sure which of the the next 2 stops was ours.

Although, if you said 'one more chocolate then I'm stopping eating' you would only have one chocolate, not the 'one more' then another to stop with. I mean, in all likelihood I'd have 8 more anyway but that's not the point!

DerelictWreck · 07/10/2018 10:54

Sausage I will say ‘one more week until Christmas’ on the 18th December. Using my husband’s train stop logic he will say ‘one more week before Christmas’ on 11th December.

Not the equivalent would be "one more week till Christmas week" on the 11th, as otherwise you're counting different things.

I'm with your DH on this one - you have to think about the fact it's essentially an abbreviated sentence. He's saying "one more stop, and then it's ours". Seems normal and logical to me I'm afraid OP Grin

EeeSheWasThin · 07/10/2018 11:01

@legomonkeys 😂 at eight more chocolates.

OP, FWIW, I’m with your DH. I would say next stop if it were actually the one after the one you were at.

DP and I are at odds over next week, next Tuesday etc though. To me next Tuesday is the 9th. He says that’s this Tuesday and next Tuesday is 16th. Wrong. Next Tuesday is the next one that’s coming up. 16th is a week on Tuesday.

SausageOnAFork · 07/10/2018 13:35

I would say that Tuesday the 9th is this coming Tuesday.
If I needed to talk about something happening on Tuesday the 16th I would say ‘Tuesday next week’