to get annoyed at DP talking for 2 hours to another woman??

[dalmationdotty]

Sorry, I'm sure I will get a mix of answers on this but I'm trying to think if I'm being overly sensitive. Been with DP now for several months and going well. He always seems to never be short of female attention and at the start there were a few women that he still texted (he'd never dated them but single mums from school that had got in touch after his marriage ended). He'd been out for drinks with one mum, and she'd tried to kiss him and he'd told her he wasn't interested. Anyway I've made it clear I'm not keen on this friendship. It only started as a result of him being single for a bit, no prev history. She has made it clear she fancies him. She keeps inviting him out for drinks. He has told her he isn;t interested and he said she made him feel like an idiot saying that she isn't either and its just being friends. How many women are just "friends" with men anyway?? Anyway every so often she comes back with an excuse to contact him, "hi saw you at school today" etc Hi handsome etc Anyway i was out with friends last night and texted on my way home to say how was your evening, he says he's been chatting with this woman for 2 hours. I just said , oh sound like you've been busy and then said bye. I've been very distant today from him and he prob knows why and isn't saying anything. Im actually quite angry and annoyed but should I be?? I know they are just talking but part of me is thinking chat with your own friends not my DP and also why can't he just put my feelings first and tell her to get lost? I wouldn't be chatting to another single man?? Just doesnt sit well with me??

Bin him ffs

Bin him off! Minimum she’s his ego boost which in its self is just nasty. Worst case it’s more.

Didyouseetheflares and argonauts I have no issue with him having female friends, I already said that to him but this has something about it thst bothers me. In Marvel terms, my spidey senses are up. You have history with your Male friend both of you. There is no history here. The only reason she made contact with him was to try and develop a romance. Kids at same school for years before no contact then, splits up with wife now she wants to be friends? She bumps into him at school pick up and he tells her he’s taking his kids for tea at restaurant and few hours later she’s texting saying oh guess where I’m
Taking my kid for tea tonight.
I have Male friends from uni we go way back and occasionally chat and catch up like old friends do.i never say hi handsome or put kiss emojis on my texts, nothing that if a GF or wife read could be misunderstood. My DP has female friends from his youth again no issue when they text yo say hi. This woman has an agenda I feel. It really is just her I have a bad feeling about no other females in his life.
Am I making sense? Or just being paranoid?

Not paranoid at all... a line has been crossed and th intention is there, definitely on her part.
But your partner should respect you enough to not engage in hours of conversation with her if it makes you uncomfortable

Honestly I think your issue is him, he is enjoying the attention for her and enjoying making you jealous (why else when you text would he have e said he spoke to her for two hours?) and enjoying the subsequent attention from you, I think in his head it's like two women fighting over him as such, he is enjoying having his ego stroked

Yes women can be friends with men but she’s made her intentions known and it isn’t just friendship! I would give him an ultimatum, either contact stops with her or you’re out. I couldn’t deal with that either OP.

Either he's stringing her along with no intention of dating her or he's keeping his options open. Neither of which make him a nice person or a good bf.
She's not a friend. She wants a relationship. He's telling you about her to see how much you'll put up with and whether you'll dump him or do the pick-me dance. Dump him.