I'm quite a bit older then your average learner - I never needed to learn, and then I got really scared and didn't want to, but now I'm finally knuckling down and had my first lesson today which was surprisingly fun.
I told DH a while back that I didn't want anyone to know, partly because I am mildly embarrassed for leaving it so late, but mostly so that I could pass or fail without any expectation or pressure (I've faced a ton of that from my own parents and have gone NC with then as a result). I've told literally no one else - I'd hoped that at some point in the future I'd pass the test and surprise everyone with it then.
Unfortunately I came back from the lesson to find DH had told MIL and she was asking me how it all went. She's lovely and supportive, as are the rest of DH's family, who she will most certainly tell, but support is actually not something I want or need for this.
I feel really, really upset with DH - I can't focus on anything what at this moment. This was not his news to spread and I so badly wanted it kept between us. I asked him what the hell, and he couldn't even remember we had this conversation (which is pretty typical of him). I know that this is a barely an issue, and it is mainly my issue (because of the stuff with my parents), but I feel so unhappy that my wishes were not respected/forgotten and that my stupid secret is now out there. AIBU?