To think this is really bad?

[Friedprawns]

I went out with a group of colleagues yesterday, who are all my level (junior, young) and quite young. Things can get quite raucous. We were quite a few drinks down and four of us still left. We started talking about musical instruments and me and another man were saying how we both played woodwind instruments and used reeds etc - things got jokey but still quite lighthearted and someone started an oral sex innuendo (I hope it wasn’t me but can’t remmeber!), everyone was laughing and a comparison was made as to how if you can play a woodwind instrument well you might be skilled in that area. I definitely don’t like him and I’m 99% sure he doesn’t like me in a romantic way. I then heard him lean towards his friend and say something, I’m fairly sure he called me a ho and then started laughing?! This has hugely changed my opinion of him and I sort of let it go then brought it up drunkenly to the other two in the group after; however i then played it down and carried on the night. I feel really weird about it today though and really bustled

[Friedprawns]

Bustled = insulted!!

[Babyroobs]

What's a ho ?

[Friedprawns]

en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/ho

[MeanTangerine]

It sounds like you didn't catch exactly what was said - let it go.

[Busyworkingbee]

It means whore.

He is gross, keep your distance!

[SadieAB9]

Sounds like you were all drunk, clearly laughing and joking, and in all my life I've never heard anyone say 'ho' unless they were very clearly joking or being ironic, as it's such a ludicrously ridiculous word (assuming your friend isn't a rapper or something - the only people I've ever heard using the word seriously!) YABU to take a probably-misheard drunken comment and let it taint your entire opinion of someone

[AuntBeastie]

I think the context is important here - you were all making ironic, slightly off colour innuendos. I don’t think you can criticise him for what you think (but aren’t sure) you heard when you were all participating in the same kind of chat.

[Lwg87]

Sounds like banter to me, I’m a woodwind teacher 😂🤦🏻‍♀️