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AIBU to feel uncomfortable shopping at Tesco because of the security guard?

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27Bananas · 06/10/2018 15:56

I noticed some time back that every time I went shopping at my local Tesco one particular security guard would glare at me when I entered the shop and again from when I was leaving from the till area to out the doors. Now this chap seems like a decent guy - he's an older guy and I've seen him be friendly with other people and even give children sweets - has given one of my children one once before this all started.

So what's the problem - it's his job to watch people I hear you ask? Hmm

So to start off with I thought I was being paranoid. I have nothing to worry about, I've never stolen anything in my life and if my kids find money, I make them hand it in. The store is walking distance from my house so I do the weekly shop there and often pop in for top ups of packed lunch items, bread, milk, cards and presents for parties and so on. It's his job to watch people so he's clearly doing it well yes. But it's now carried on for months and months every single time, regardless of other shoppers around me and a few weeks ago he even followed me and my kids out the store into the entrance way.

Today I popped in by myself for printer paper and a birthday card for my son and again he glared at me all the way from the tills to the exit. I looked straight at him a couple of times to check he was definitely looking at me and he was - not a friendly look, but glaring.

I try to ignore it but feel like I shouldn't be made to feel this uncomfortable. I have never had this issue before and none of the other security guards act this way towards me. I'm starting to feel like I don't want to shop there anymore. The only reason I noticed it was because it feels like he's boring a hole through me with the stare.

I really don't know how to deal with this without being forced to shop elsewhere which is far less convenient. Confused

OP posts:
Whoisshequestionmark · 06/10/2018 15:59

If it was me I'd tell him he was making me feel uncomfortable.

Seeline · 06/10/2018 16:01

Smile and say hello or goodbye or good afternoon every time you see him.

Maelstrop · 06/10/2018 16:01

Why don’t you just speak to him and ask him what the issue is?

Mumminmum · 06/10/2018 16:02

Complain.

Whoisshequestionmark · 06/10/2018 16:02

To add to my previous reply I've actually done this in my local small super market. The security guard apologised and I've had no problems since.

Charlie97 · 06/10/2018 16:02

Ask him! Really go up to him, ask him to get the on duty manager and whilst they are both standing with you, look him straight in the eye and say "why are you always glaring at me, if you think I'm shop lifting then stop me and check! You'll be wrong but go on check. If not then stop making me feel uneasy! My money is as good as anyone's in the shop and you need to stop your behaviour towards me!"

I bet it stops!!

27Bananas · 06/10/2018 16:22

You are right, I should smile and say hello or ask outright. I don't even feel that confident to do it because of how he has made me feel...but I will try.

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Charlie97 · 06/10/2018 16:23

@27Bananas that's why he's doing it, he knows he's making you feel
Uncomfortable ..... get the manager there to witness it and see him squirm!

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