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Teen off school ill all week wants to go out at weekend

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singlemum13 · 06/10/2018 12:50

My teenage son has had a b ad bout of tonsilitis since Monday with raging temps and was given antibiotics on Monday evening. Has then felt a lot better by Thursday lunchtime but most physical thing he has done is wash dishes 3 times in one day (only 2 of us in household so not a lot of dishes). He was off school the whole week but now wants to round to his friends house (his friend has two brothers 3 and 7) tonight to watch boxing match at 4am tom morning. He I also wants to go to his girlfriend's house tomorrow - last saw (and kissing) her last Friday which is within incubation period timeframe.
I have said no as was brought up to believe if you aren't fit enough to go to school during week you're not fit enough to play at weekends whivh I think is a good work/play ethic. Also I have had to take Annual Leave to be nursemaid and can't afford any more time off if this recurs again in near future. I think returning to school on Monday will be early enough.
Past - as a child he had tonsilitis 4-5 times each year until at 4.5 yrs old he had glandular fever. This is the first he has had this since then.
Is this reasonable or not?

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PeonyTruffle · 06/10/2018 12:52

I would insist he stayed at home, or at least went out for a little bit and then came home.

Staying up to watch the 4am fight seems a bit much considering he has been wiped out all week

So YANBU IMO

bridgetreilly · 06/10/2018 12:54

Nope. If he's well, surely he has plenty of school work to catch up on? And he definitely needs to sleep. I wouldn't be letting him go to watch a 4am match even if he hadn't been ill, tbh.

Thisreallyisafarce · 06/10/2018 12:58

How old is he?

FrancisCrawford · 06/10/2018 13:00

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BookMeOnTheSudExpress · 06/10/2018 13:00

Nope. At most, his friends/girlfriend pop round and see him. If he's feeling that much better he catches up on his schoolwork and gets ready for Monday.

ForalltheSaints · 06/10/2018 13:01

No, he should get himself 100% better, though of course you don't understand and this is so unfair!

LikeIcare · 06/10/2018 13:18

But he has been ill, not faking it so that's nothing about having 'ethics'.

Let him enjoy his weekend. I certainly wouldn't sit in all weekend if I felt better after being off sick.

Sirzy · 06/10/2018 13:21

If it had been a case of wanting to go to town with his friends for a few hours then (assuming he is back to school on Monday!) that would be ok to me, but staying up all night to watch boxing wouldn’t be

IHaveBrilloHair · 06/10/2018 13:23

I'd let him, he was ill during the week, he's better now

Noboozeforme · 06/10/2018 13:53

He wasn't faking it. He was ill but is now better. I'd let him go.

If my DC was off school for one day but then wanted to out that night .. it would be a no from me.

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