Cosleeping with 14 month old baby?

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IABU posting here but I'm posting for traffic and need to know so I can sleep.

I think I'm coming down with flu and DD is coughing like a trooper, I still usually curve around her as per advice I read when she was young (although by the morning she's usually flip flopped in 101 different directions from start of sleep and back to my side at the end) but want to know if it's still necessary?

My neck is so stiff, I really need to turn away and get some decent sleep. Is it still necessary?

14 months old? I don't think it's necessary to do anything at that age other than follow usual co sleeping guidelines around alcohol and smoking.

Nah. Just sleep how you feel comfortable.

I co-sleep with my 14 month old and stopped curling around him from about 6 months of age. I have a queen size bed and I lie on one side and he lies on the other. He sleeps in a sleeping bag but I also have a blanket over him and he has his own pillow.

My view is once they’re rolling and walking then the ‘safe co-sleeping’ guidelines go out the window because like you say, they roll around in spin in circles during the night anyway.

However - for some reason I can’t bring myself to sleep with my back to him, I always have to lie on my side so I’m facing him. It’s purely psychological

You really don’t need to do that now. I co sleep with my now two year old, and I think I stopped sleeping in that position around 12 months old, if not a bit before. You still won’t squash your child, you will be so aware of her. I haven’t rolled on mine (but I’ve been kicked in the face plenty of times, and narrowly missed being kicked in the nose last week by moving at the very last minute!).

I still sleep lightly and wake the moment she stirs. You don’t lose it.

Once they can push you back you don't need to worry, my only advice is to work out when to move them into their own bed, toddlers are so wriggly! We did ok with dd1 as she vacated of her own accord due to arrival of dd2 (and her crying) but dd2 was 6 and still climbing into our bed by 1am whatever we tried - around 7 after we moved we walked her back hour after hour, night after night until she gave up

Thanks for all the replies. It was just what I needed!