My 3yo has started at a different nursery (school nursery). He's been in private childcare since he was 5 months old. He is full of beans and has no sense of danger, which means he will often fall or bump into things. He was in the pram probably for too long (until this summer), so now he has bigger spaces and the freedom to run around, he is constantly running and playing around. After school has said that he might have balance issues and to take him to the GP. I have done so and the GP couldn't decide because he took the assessment as play and was wriggling and dancing around as if it was his own show. GP said that maybe I could contact the health visitor if I was worried but that it could just be an active and clumsy 3yo. Everyone I have mentioned this (non-qualified neighbors and other people) kept suggesting a long list of SEN conditions that he could have and insist I take him for evaluation because such and such kid had such and such condition and it helped them.
I'm getting anxious because I never thought there was an issue, his previous nursery never said anything, his current teacher hasn't said anything and it's is just the after school that has mentioned. But then again, this is the first year that they accept 3yo children, when previously only worked with reception and above. I have no clue about SEN spectrums but these are some of the answers I had to give to people:
He's clumsy, yes. He doesn't look where he's going.
He doesn't have tantrums and is quite a happy chappy, always giggling and bouncing around.
He doesn't seem to have a best friend, he plays alone quite a lot when in nursery but would attach to his sister at home. He likes role play, blocks, cars, drawing and doll houses.
He doesn't have any special toy that he is attached to. He has about three favourite teddies but doesn't sleep with any and would play with them when reminded or during role play (schools, neighbors, parents, etc).
He is very affectionate. Very. But also independent. He would come suddenly for a cuddle and go back to his game.
He stills doesn't speak clearly. He makes sentences and had a wide vocabulary but he would slur some words.
He eats well, everything. He very rarely refuses any food and would try everything on his plate. He struggles a bit to eat with cutlery, as in he starts well but half way through he is trying to use his fingers to push something into the fork or something.
As far as I know, he doesn't have issues with any clothing or fabric.
He is good with numbers (counts to 23 easily and recognises them individually). He is ok with letters, he's been playing on the tablet her sister's phonics app and is trying to learn some, albeit I'm not sure how much he actually gets.
I don't know what to think. To me, he's just average. Good at some things and not so good at others. I can't remember for the life of me how his sister was at this age. She was also clumsy and I remember she didn't really make sentences until she was two, and now is well within the expected-exceeding areas of the curriculum. But I can't pinpoint the rest. I think they are the same, with my son being maybe more "bouncy". He's always singing and dancing to stuff, copying cartoons such as "Bo on the go" and "Team Umizoomi", which have lots of physical activities to copy. He runs off and doesn't conceive danger, I have to tell him he's going to go on time out or lose a star on the reward chart for him to come back, all whilst giggling and find it funny.
I don't feel exhausted by him or overwhelmed. He's just got lots of steam and I expect I'll have to put him in sports club when available, to burn off some of that energy. However, 90% of the people I mentioned the comment from the after school lady have told me a long list of possible conditions he might have, and told me to file a form for him to be treated and for me to get support. AIBU to think I don't really need to worry and although they are well meaning, they might be projecting their experiences on my son?