School issue in Reception

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Need advice please. My sons school. Apparently he scribbled on a girls work and teacher said she asked him why and he said because she was in the way. Then Richie told me the teacher told the girl to scribble on his picture ...... should she of done that? Obviously it was wrong what he done and the teacher did tell him about it but surely 2 wrongs don’t make a right?

Key word here is "apparently"

You need to talk to the teacher and establish the truth.

Two wrongs certainly don't make a right but you need to find out what has actually happened.

Sorry it's just the way I talk. He did draw on the girls work as the teacher told me but my son came out of school today with his picture telling me that his teacher told the girl to do it back

Strangely enough my daughter came out crying because a boy scribbled on her work today.

Maybe the teacher was trying to show him how it feels for someone to ruin is work.

Maybe not the way some would handle it but hopefully he won’t do it again.

are you sure she didn't say something like...'how would feel if someone scribbled on your work?' And he got confused?

Is he overly upset? If he’s already forgotten it I’d just leave it.

"Apparently" and a focus on the other child rather than what her own has done wrong. I think that tells us everything we need to know about this parent.

So she was suppose to be a victim and do nothing? I’m actually happy the teacher put the ball (pen in this case) back in her court and left it up to the little girl to either do it back or leave it alone.

"Apparently" and a focus on the other child rather than what her own has done wrong. I think that tells us everything we need to know about this parent

That's a bit rough but there is a lot of truth in it. Our concern as parents should be to raise a child who is considerate of others, OP, much as we also want to protect them

But wouldn’t this be confusing for the child? Surely all the child is going to get from this is that they’re not allowed to scribble on someone else’s work but it’s ok for someone to scribble on their work?

Op, I would definitely approach the teacher and just ask her to clarify what actually happened, as young kids wouldn’t necessarily tell the whole/true story. Of course I would expect my child to have a consequence for their unwanted behaviour and I would back the teacher but not when (IF) that consequence is just sending out mixed messages.

IF that's what happened then it seems odd and not how most Reception teachers would handle it, but I'd use it as a teaching point.

"How did you feel when she scribbled on your work?"
"Sad and cross"
"I'm sure you did. It was upsetting, wasn't it? That's just how that poor little girl must have felt when you scribbled on her work. I'm sure you won't ever do that to anybody again now you know how horrible it feels."

I certainly wouldn't bother going to see the teacher over such a little thing.

PS, your OP should have read: "Should she HAVE done that."