I split with my ex in August. He has our lo for 3/4 nights most weekends (Thursday, Friday, Saturday and sometimes Sunday). He has been working Saturday morning so I have been having her and I always see her on a Friday as I collect her from nursery.
Lo was a terrible sleeper until about 15 months and we (I) got her into a routine and she had been sleeping really well. Going into her cot by herself and settling well. I can’t stress enough what an achievement this is and how much of a terrible sleeper she was!
Since ex has got his iwn place I’ve been asking how she’s sleeping etc etc and he always says ‘fine’. I’ve had a few bad nights when I’ve had her and just put it down to the changes happening.
Anyway her behaviour isn’t great, smacking etc (she’s only 2 so I know it’s to be expected) and going to bed is getting worse and worse...
I spoke to her dad tonight and have found out that instead of putting her to sleep in her cot (he has a travel cot at the moment) he lays on his bed with her until she falls asleep at around 9.30! And I had to drag this information out if him. I had to specifically ask how he puts her to bed, what time etc.
He says he wasn’t putting her in the cot as I said she could climb out of it (she did it once and I told him that) I told him that as a warning... she can climb out of her normal cot at mine but has only done that once also.
Aibu to be pissed off that A. This is happening and B. That it has taken him two months to tell me.
I think it’s just lazy parenting and is making her tired and that is making her play up more. She is subdued more than usual too.
He is just so lazy and basically feeds her sausages the whole time she is with him ‘because she won’t eat anything else’. That’s not true, she loves all sort of food but I pick my battles and this doesn’t bother me too much as I make sure she eats well with me.
I’ve asked him to go back to her routine but can’t see him doing it. Wwyd?