So I have been with my second husband for six years . I had my own house when we met so after three years just before we married he moved in with me and my 3 kids and had his children on weekends . It was a nightmare as my daughter and stepdaughter both teenagers had to share a small bedroom and were arguing all the time . My father passed away and I was left some money of which I put into us buying a new home suitable for two mixed families. My husband pays the mortgage and I rented out my home.
As the house is in his name ( I drew up a legal document to protect my inheritance) he has definitely changed in his behaviour. He will not let me to any decorating without his permission and timescale and says no all the time to any improvements. It a very old Victorian house and very dark, he won’t agree to glass in the front door like all the other houses in the Rd! We had a really cheap quote for spot lights which he said he doesn’t want a big electric bill ! To top it off after him finally agreeing to let me have the main lounge decorated which unfortunately I chose a very strong pink which looked great on the tin he will not allow me to repaint it! Think bubblegum colour, it looks awful! I am feeling very frustrated and controlled! He’s got a great job where he is looked up to and I am starting to think what an arrogant pig he is! I feel he likes the control as he has never cared about houses, his rented properties were a tip! I have always loved a nice home and I am feeling very depressed! I absolutely loved him but I feel I am going off him as I try to discuss anything with him he says I am picking on him and he plays the victim. He actually walked out for a night last week as I am picking on him and apparently a spoilt child as I can’t get my own way ! Maybe he’s right ???