Going to the police
femline · 04/10/2018 02:27
I'm going to try and be as detailed as I can without giving away who I am.
In July a person in a position of trust (refer to as A) was physically violent towards me. It was horrifying and after 3 days I finally plucked up the courage to tell another person in a position of trust what happened. She reported my statement to A's manager. A's manager called me and convinced me not to go to the police despite me wanting to, and reassured me that there would be "serious repercussions" if it was true. (CCTV of the building proves it was). The manager said a formal investigation would be conducted and I would be kept involved in everything to keep me reassured.
Since the event I've suffered from sleep paralysis, nightmares, suicidal thoughts and I can barely leave the house. I've not been updated at all about what's going on despite my regular calls to enquire (just told they'd call me back). I feel trapped by what A did and the traumatic memories it's brought back from childhood.
I need closure. But is it pointless and unreasonable to go to police? Family tell me to just forget about it but I can't. it's all I think about. AIBU being this upset? Do I report it to the police? How do I move on?
brizzledrizzle · 04/10/2018 02:31
I think the first thing for you to do would be talk to your gp to get some support as you've had such a traumatic time
femline · 04/10/2018 02:36
@brizzledizzle will they help me? I'm afraid to ask them in case I sound stupid..
brizzledrizzle · 04/10/2018 02:39
Yes, they can help, they will listen and suggest next steps for support. There are also the Samaritans in 116123
NorthEndGal · 04/10/2018 02:39
If you have been assaulted, you should go to the police.
femline · 04/10/2018 02:40
@NorthEnd will they still see me if the incident was in July?
Seniorschoolmum · 04/10/2018 02:45
Yes, go to the police. Ask to speak to a woman officer. Explain what happened and get it logged. If nothing else it will give you some feeling of taking control.
Also if it is logged, it will have much more sway with the courts should anything like it happen again.
It sounds like your employer is trying to bury it, knowing they have some liability, and hoping you will get bored asking.
Pp is right, you need to talk to someone about your feelings as well. Hope it gets sorted
Mummyoflittledragon · 04/10/2018 03:03
A’s manager seriously overstepped the boundaries. It is not their decision. It sounds as though you need recognition at the very least. On that basis I would report the person to the police. If A’s manager has a boss, I would complain to them or more senior management.
Did you see the footage? Do you even know if it is still there? The disciplinary has taken an awfully ong time. It sounds as if it may have been brushed under the carpet and possibly the evidence even deleted. I would want some answers. The only way to do that is to report to the police.
femline · 04/10/2018 12:18
I saw the footage. I don't know where it is though. They said they needed to take it as evidence.
Mummyoflittledragon · 04/10/2018 13:02
Do you think you will report this to the police? If the evidence has been deleted, the manager could potentially be in trouble. That isn’t your problem.
StoneofDestiny · 04/10/2018 16:21
Go to the police.
You do not sound stupid to me ~ just traumatised. Also see your GP.
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