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To ask what I’ll regret more?

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Pukepukepuke · 03/10/2018 23:16

Missing a year 2 assembly or going into work potentially 3 hours late when I’ve been ill, am behind and have too much on. It feels like In 6 months time the work won’t matter but I’ll still feel sad about the assembly

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Secretmystery · 03/10/2018 23:19

Normally I'd say good regret missing the assembly more but if you have been off sick, are behind and have loads of work to get through I think you may be better off going to work. It depends if there is any risk of you losing your job.

SplishSplashSplosh · 03/10/2018 23:20

Pick the assembly.

My DP always used to miss my school plays and assemblies because of work and it always made me sad.

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Pukepukepuke · 03/10/2018 23:23

No risk of me losing my job. I’ll just be putting more pressure on myself and because I’ve been very unusually off for two days this week already it feels like a huge deal to go in later

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sma1978 · 03/10/2018 23:23

Ask yourself What is the point of the assembly? Is it important to DC that u are there?

BigChocFrenzy · 03/10/2018 23:24

If it endangers your job or career progression, then miss the assembly.
Both you and the DC will be a lot sadder if you can't afford activities, treats etc or even worse

If you don't need the job, or they don't bother about absence, then (they're very unusual) you can turn up late

garethsouthgatesmrs · 03/10/2018 23:27

You wil regret the assembly more. Also what matters more, how you feel or how DC feels?

garethsouthgatesmrs · 03/10/2018 23:28

bigchocfrenzy i am assuming the OP can get leave for this and isn't skiving!

HeddaGarbled · 03/10/2018 23:30

Depends how frequent the assemblies are. It’s not the end of the world to miss occasional school events. If you get to go to others, especially the biggies like Christmas plays, I don’t think you’ll even remember in 6 months’ time, let alone feel sad.

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Pukepukepuke · 03/10/2018 23:45

No but skiving it’s pretty flexible but I’d have to get up early and stay later. I still have to do exactly the same amount of work.

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Pukepukepuke · 03/10/2018 23:45

THAt should say not.

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BigChocFrenzy · 03/10/2018 23:48

If you can fit in your contracted hours at work, then do so and attend the assembly

PurpleDaisies · 03/10/2018 23:50

Is anyone else going to be at the assembly if you won’t be?

I’d probably go to work but I’m a primary teacher and not a huge fan of class assemblies.

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Pukepukepuke · 03/10/2018 23:52

Yes their dad wi be. I’m probably being very precious but I’ve told them I will go and don’t want to let him down. It seems much more important than work. My work is actually very important but I can’t shake the feeling that the age where they are desperate for you to come to assemblies doesn’t last very long

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HeddaGarbled · 04/10/2018 00:39

Ah now, you’ve told them you’ll go so I think you have to, barring real emergencies.

HollaHolla · 04/10/2018 01:09

Is it an important assembly for them? Are they doing a reading or a song or anything? Will there be another one soon?
I think those are the things to ask yourself. I’d go to work, but I’ve a heart of stone. Grin
Seriously, my mum was a teacher, and dad in the forces. Grandparents were either dead or at other end of the country. I can only remember about 3 times I had a parent at anything in school hours. I’m not horribly scarred by it, and have a good relationship with my parents. Other kids will be the same and won’t have anyone there.

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