To not pick DD up?

[FedUpOfBeingAMug]

DD is 21, still living at home. She has a habit of taking the piss.

Today she visited some friends in a city an hour away. She said she would get the last train home and I reminded her to double check when that was on the website before she left. She instead asked at the station on the way there and was told midnight was told midnight.

She found out a short while ago, it wasn't. One of her friends offered for her to sleepover tonight as she has to be in that city tomorrow anyway. She has declined as she has no clean knickers or toothbrush and just had a hissy fit that we won't drop everything to spend 2 hours this late at night to get her.

It's our fault she'll have to spend upwards of £50 on a taxi to get home.

Obviously I've told her to nip to a supermarket, get some knickers and a toothbrush which will be cheaper. We would go and get her if she hadn't had the offer from her friend.

AWBU?

[itwillbealrightpromise]

YANBU. She's even meant to be there tomorrow - perfect excuse to stay at her friends and get drunk

[twoshedsjackson]

Suggest a compromise - you'll come and get her, but charge her £40; still less than the taxi. You might find the friend's house becomes a better option. I know she's playing on your anxieties about her safety, but at 21, she's been an adult legally for 3 years.

[HollaHolla]

Unless it’s a job interview or funeral, it’s not the end of the world if she’s not 100% shiny and perfect appearance-wise.
I went to live on the other side of the world, alone, at 21..... she can easily find a 24 hour supermarket and get knickers and a toothbrush. Surely she can borrow everything else?!

[Haireverywhere]

Unless there was a one off event as PP says no reason why she can't manage. She's safe and needs to stop doing this "forgetting" to check the train times malarkey.

[MrsTommyBanks]

Fuck that. Leave her to it.
Sorry but she is taking the piss. I say this as someone who has sprung same age kids a hotel when they've missed trains.
There is a difference between supported and spoilt

[AcrossthePond55]

She could give her knickers a hand wash and put some toothpaste on the corner of a face flannel to scrub her teeth. As far as her makeup, a damp Q-Tip works wonders to remove mascara from under the eyes, a dry one will re-blend shadow, and slightly damp flannel will re-blend foundation.

Hopefully she'll learn a valuable lesson.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

Stranded with no means of transport is one thing. This is your dd acting like a princess. Life lesson. She pays for the taxi or sleeps over.

[constantnightmare88]

It’s tough.

I hated being away from home even at that age but it’s a situation she created herself. She needs to learn from this and if she wants transport to be available to her 24:7, she needs to learn to drive herself.

Surely it would be a lot cheaper for her to get a taxi to a 24:7 supermarket, buy a toothbrush/knickers/makeup then get a taxi home? Maybe only just but it’s a lot less hassle even if it means she has to get up earlier in the morning and do it.

[beeefcake]

What was the outcome OP?