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To expect an apology? It’s a parking one!

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Tara336 · 03/10/2018 20:04

We have a second home (sounds posher then it is) which comes with allocated parking. Never really had any issues with parking until a couple weeks ago when we turned up on a rainy Friday night to stay the weekend. Drove into our car park and there’s a car in my space! Never seen it before and no one knew where it had come from. It didn’t move all weekend and left us struggling for somewhere to park so was beginning to get a bit annoyed.

When we came back this weekend the car is still sat in my space and we began to wonder if it had been stolen or something.

My neighbour has there home on the market and as we share the freehold I’d been sent some stuff for the solicitor and I text her to let her know and as an aside said do you know who the car belongs too? I had knocked when it first appeared but no answer.

She said yes it’s ours, we are on holiday and it’s in our space. I said ok thanks for letting me know but it’s actually in mine.

They got home today and text me to say the deeds say it’s their space. I checked my deeds and realised straight away they were looking at the wrong set as we share the freehold and have copies of each other’s deeds. Even though it’s blindingly obvious when you look at either set of deeds who is meant to park where even without the usual outline solicitors do.

So I sent a text with a photo of deeds saying I can see why you got muddled etc I have had no response at all, I wasn’t looking for confrontation or anything like that but at least a text to say sorry about that or something?

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surreygirl1987 · 03/10/2018 20:36

Was this just today? In that case I'd say give them a chance to reply!

FullOfJellyBeans · 03/10/2018 20:38

YANBU to want an apology but you might still get one.

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Tara336 · 04/10/2018 08:57

Still no apology, I guess they have decided to just ignore the fact they got it wrong and have caused me no end of problems for two weeks. I’d have been mortified if I’d done that to someone else even if it was accidentally. I just wanted them to confirm that they agree with what the deeds say more than anything so that when the new people move in I don’t have any further problems

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Onlyjoinedforthisthread · 04/10/2018 09:29

I think an apology would be nice. But your are being dramatic, no end of problems for two weeks? You were only there at the weekends and I'm assuming you wouldn't be in and out with your car every half end so they probably caused you to look for a space half a dozen times and that was due to a misunderstanding, get over it

BlueUggs · 04/10/2018 09:32

Why can't you just park in their space instead?

SputnikBear · 04/10/2018 09:40

Give them time to respond. If they don’t, text again. If they still don’t respond, send a letter recorded delivery. As a last resort send a solicitors letter. You need confirmation that they know which space is theirs. If this confusion persists it will continue to cause problems and could cause issues when you eventually sell.

llangennith · 04/10/2018 10:20

They probably don't see it as the big deal you seem to.

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Tara336 · 04/10/2018 15:52

Because I didn’t know where their space was until I dug all the deeds out and also didn’t know it was their car until I text her about something else. I won’t park in someone else’s space without them saying it’s fine as seems a bit of crap thing to do when it had been done to me

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Tara336 · 04/10/2018 15:57

@Onlyjoinedforthisthread I’m not being over dramatic, there was nowhere for us to park so had to park on road a fair way away and lug all our stuff down the road in pouring rain. We had fresh bedding, food shop, overnight bags etc. I have MS and struggle when I’m tired and in pain that’s why we bought a place with allocated space right at back of the flat so that I can park up and only walk a few feet to the door. We were in and out over the weekend visiting friends and family, for some reason the streets around the flat were packed with cars which is very unusual, DP was dropping me to flat and then driving round looking for a space

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Tara336 · 04/10/2018 16:00

@Sputnikbear this is what worries me as we will obviously have new neighbours soon and I want to avoid having this problem again.

@llangennith yes I agree no one sees it as a big deal unless it’s them on the receiving end

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Fiffyshadesofgreymatter · 04/10/2018 16:00

I'd want to bring it up with them just to make sure they aren't being buyers that they can park there. Obviously buyers will get all the info when they purchase but yu always hear of problems because "oh, the last owners told us we could".

Fiffyshadesofgreymatter · 04/10/2018 16:01

*telling buyers

SevernWye · 04/10/2018 16:04

How has this never come up before, are you not usually there at the same time?

Yes, I’d apologise if I had left my car in your spot for 2 weeks.

FadedRed · 04/10/2018 16:07

Paint your house number on the space? Lockable bollard?

Lydiaatthebarre · 04/10/2018 16:07

Of course they should apologise. And also call around with a bottle of wine. I'd be mortified if I'd accidentally hogged someone else's space for two weeks. YANBU.

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Tara336 · 04/10/2018 16:07

@Fiftyshadesofgreymatter I will try again to speak to the, over the weekend I think tbh they have an attitude now of “not my problem” because they are moving.

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Tara336 · 04/10/2018 16:10

@SevernWye there’s usually lots of empty parking bays out the front of the properties and they have always put their car there. But they had bought an extra car due to their imminent move and stuck it in the allocated parking out the back which is where I park. They did park their car out the back last time they went away and it was stopping me parking then but i left it as I was only there one night and could park out the front so seemed silly to make a fuss

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Tara336 · 04/10/2018 16:12

@FadedRed one of my neighbours has painted my door number there this morning which was so kind, I dropped him some chocolates round to say thanks. He’s had similar issues as well and it was a conversation in passing to me this morning when he asked about the “strange car” in my bay and I explained

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Tara336 · 04/10/2018 16:14

@Lydiaatthebarre I would be mortified too which is why I’m so surprised at their attitude, they were sending me stroppy texts while I was being calm and polite

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Juells · 04/10/2018 16:18

Get white paint and put your house number in big letters in the space.

Tiredtomybones · 04/10/2018 16:21

Yanbu but you may get an apology yet.

Rhiannon13 · 04/10/2018 16:22

Any normal person would apologise! What is it with people who are never wrong?

JessicaJonesJacket · 04/10/2018 16:24

If they usually park at the front and their parking space is at the back then I suspect they thought you had ample other places to park. Plus if they're in the middle of moving then your parking space quandary won't be high on their list of priorities.
At least the painted number should stop it happening with the new owners.

Collaborate · 04/10/2018 16:27

Perhaps you could explain to them that as you have someone coming to install a removable bollard this weekend you need it moving, as you'd hate it if they were locked in.

Collaborate · 04/10/2018 16:27

(can't believe I got in first with the bollard suggestion - come on MN - liven up!)

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