To dislike my DSs middle name?

[sadkoala]

Its silly but for some reason I'm a bit sad about this...
DS1 second name is the same as OHs and FILs second names, we also gave him a 3rd which is my DFs first name as we wanted him to have something from both sides of the family.
We then had DS2 and OH wanted his second name to be his father's first name. I didn't like that idea and wanted something different as DS1 already had a second name after OH and FIL but OH was quite set on it and I didn't feel up to arguing about it and just went along with it. I also at the time pointed out that OHs brother's son has that second name but he just wanted it regardless.

I now wish I didn't as I really dislike it. I feel a bit sad that DS2 has a name after OHs DF again and nothing from my side and I feel like it might be brought up by my side of the family at DS2s christening as the relationship is already strained.

AIBU to feel this way or am I just being stupid?

Is the problem the name of that your OH decided his feelings about it were more important than yours?

Similarly, are you more concerned about your feelings about the name or what your family will think?

Your OH steam rollered you in to this choice..and tbh you shouldn't have buckled

But having said that, theres nowt you can do about it now

If it is any consolation OP I have the same issue with DS first name! We use his middle name.

If the christening is coming up, I presume your son is not that old. Why don't you add another one in if it would make you happier?

@knittingdad
It's a bit of both. I certainly would not have picked that name as DSs second name as I don't particularly like it and my SiLs son already has it as his second.

I also felt a bit steamrolled l.
I pointed out that DS1 already had a second name after his side (his, his dad's and his grandfathers second names were all the same so DS1 is carrying on the tradition so to speak) but OH said that thats nothing to do with it as that's after himself not his DF and I hate confrontation and aggro so I just didn't say anything...

I might gets some bashing for this... but I chose DS name when I was 14 and all tbc was the surname of my future bf. DP didn’t care he was just happy to be a dad. When I was pregnant with DD DP asked if he could choose the name, so I wrote our agreed and favourite names on a list and he chose. Non of them have links to any family members as I wanted them to be individuals. And besides my DP surname is an awkward one that is hard to find anything that sounds good together.
IMO the women is the one who has to carry the child for 9months the least she can get to do is get final say on the name.

I could understand this being important to your OH, but they shouldn't be making you feel that you can't talk about it.

You say OH. Do your children have a different last name to you too?