Step Kids & Mums

[GeorgesMummy1]

Just trying to get you lovely MN's feedback as not sure what to do?....
Basically after 10Yrs with my DP and our DC (9 yo boy) I have finally met his DD. Just for perspective, she has always known about me, has met my boy and we have kind of had 'seperate' times together, which so far has worked well.
What has now happened is we have got a new puppy, SD came at the weekend (more because she wanted to meet the puppy than me!) and although I think we were both very nervous, it went really well. My problem is now her mum wants to meet me! Not sure why and not sure if I want to really.... the other problem I have is that DSD has not (and no one else!) told her that she had already met me, had stayed the night in our house and also that she has her own room in our house?

What do you think that she wants to ask, and should I just say yes to meeting??

i have a SD aged 10 who i met when she was 5.

For the first year or so I never had any contact with her mum, then we bumped into one another when SD was with me. and we ended up going for coffee and actually since then (mush to OH dismay lol) we have become really good friends and actually chat most days. At first when we went for coffee she had a lot of questions about me -- nothing sinister just general femal nosiness i guess.

I find your whole situation really really weird and dont understand why it has taken this amount of time to meet your DS, have you not wanted to meet her? has your partner not wanted to meet her? like what has stopped you? i just dont get it. i was dying to meet my SD!!

Are you sure your partner wasn't seeing both of you at the same time?

I'm a little confused how she has her own room at your house even though she's only just met you?

Poor kids.

What has previously happened at Christmas? Birthdays? Has she really never visited the house where her father lives? Did she know when her brother was born? Did her DM know that you were in the picture all this time?

Why on earth would you accept this situation and go on to have a child when you hadn't met his existing one?

There is absolutely no acceptable explanation for this unless they lived the other side of the world!

This is awful for your DS and DSD, that they haven't been given the opportunity to develop a sibling relationship long before this. I think your DP has been far too passive in his attempts to resolve this.

YABU to not post a picture of new puppy...

How odd...🤔

OP you have started a thread with minimal information it would be a good idea to outline the situation.