to be open mouthed at neighbours rudeness?

[milge]

My neighbour has 2 sons, 6 and 4. Our back gardens adjoin a field which we can both get into. The kids have played in the field togehter quite happily and about twice this year, all the kids have come and played in my house. Her 2 sons came into our garden from the field last saturday and stayed for 5 hours, playing with my 4 yo dt's. On Sunday they came through again, and we were busy. The neighbours eldest son went back to his mum to ask if my dt's could come and play. She said no. Neighbours kids stayed anyway for 2 hours.
The 4 year old is in the same year as my ds at school. At school this am, ds asked my neighbour - "Can I come and play at your house? with X(6yo) and X(4yo) Neighbour replied, "no, I am not a childminding service"

I am all for going round there and giving her a piece of my mind. DH is telling me to leave it.

AIBU in wanting to deck her??

sounds like my neighbour. Some people are jsut so antisocial. It's fair enough if she doesn't want yours over, but she should rein her own in too in that case.

just do it

Hmmm. I'd be tempted to say dont let their chldren in your garden or house anymore, but, then all the children lose out.

She was very rude, but I dont see that there is much you can do about it. (Although it might make you feel better to escort her two children next time they invite themselves over, to her front door, knock and hand them over saying "I am not a childminding service you know" )

Not BU.Stupid woman needs to realise that having friends round to play is what dc's need and is good for them.
Go for it.Give her a piece of my mind to.
(hate people who don't mind you watching their dc's but won't return favour GRRR!!)

She maybe thinks that there is a difference between kids just turning up, and coming round to play and an actual arrangement for them to come and play.

As she didn't actually ask if her kids could come to yours, she may not feel that she has to reciprocate.

Maybe?

btw, I disagree with this, I just think that she may not realise that she is being a bit of an arse

Don't deck her - not neighbourly but don't allow her kids around again. If they come around say you are really sorry but they can't come around because you are too busy and it is not convenient.

Our neighbour lets her children come through a gap in the fence into our garden - even when we are not here!

Maybe she had had a crap morning.

Yes, that is a good point, Squonk. I hadn't thought of it that way.
VVvQV, I will indeed take great pleasure.

If her son and my son weren't in the same class at school, I would have already been round there...