To be fucking raging

[edinburghlass1991]

Dd6 has just told me a boy at school who push’s her about felt her bum today which she is upset about. I only spoke with the school about him ( she’s selective mute ). I don’t know what to do:(

Have you told the school? Sorry it's not clear from your post, if you have what are they doing about it?

Meeting with the head first thing. Make it clear you want to know what the school are going to do to address this and prevent it hsppening again.

I'd also be concerned from a safeguarding perspective as to where he's learning that kind of behaviour, pushing around and inappropriately touching females...

I'm sorry OP try and get as much detail out of your DD as poss without upsetting her. She's the only one that will be able to tell you the whole truth. Definitely arrange a meeting with the head first thing and discuss how they're going to discipline him and safeguarding issues. Make sure his parents know ASAP, get them in to school too so you can see where it's come from. Will have to be learned behaviour from somewhere. Hope you and your DD get through it!

The school will not discuss another pupil with you - they most certainly will not tell you any strategies put in place or disciplinary actions taken. the last thing you so is approach another parent, all guns blazing , making accusations, which have yet to be investigated.

My 4 year old DD has SM also, so i know how difficult it is for ypur DD to be able to tell the teachers.
Meeting with the head. Explain that as your DD is more comfortable speaking at home she was able to tell you, and that she hadn't told the teachers at the time due to her SM.
Id tell them that something needs to be done and I'd ask what strategies are in place to support your DD when she needs to tell of something distressing (bullying, stuck with her work, this incident)
Is she being supported with her SM?

School not aware as yet. I have a lot of contact with school due to the selective mutism so I feel confident telling them about it with guns blazing as I know they will do all they can. Saying that she has told me it happened while lineing up for pe so it could of been an accident but I still plan to tell them so it’s on record and to keep a close eye out in case it happens again. Does that sound like a plan?

There is support in place but when it comes to other kids being mean she doesn’t use her cards etc

Damn.
My DD can be the same, although she does tell one teacher now who she absolutely adores.

Your plan sounds a good one though. Hopefully they'll be a bit more vigilant.

I would be raging too. YANBU.

Yes, your plan sounds like a good one. They will need to be made aware so they can keep a very close eye on things. And if it happens again, it’s no accident.

If she feels uncomfortable, I would also suggest they are kept apart somehow, particularly when queueing etc.

I don't know much about selective mutism, but in future when there's something she really needs to tell the teacher immediately could she write it down?