Dh & said friend have "enjoyed" a fractious relationship for several years, where she feels perfectly within her rights to have a go at him (to his face) as well as to bad mouth him to me at every opportunity. E.g. when dh and a mutual friend worked on friend's garden, all credit was given to the mutual friend and none to dh, even though he spent more time on it .
I'm pretty easy going generally but have really begun to have enough of this, especially following a recent and very vocal accusion that dh was responsible for the state that her other half ended up in at a wedding, supposedly putting him in mortal danger because she was convinced her dh was going to choke on his own vomit .
I'm not for one moment suggesting that there aren't risks to excessive alcohol consumption but I believe dh when he says that all he did was to top up the other guy's glass several times with the bottle of gin that they had bought together much earlier in the day. By 5am, they were (unsurprisingly) both half cut and I see no reason why my dh should be anymore expected to assess or monitor friend's dh's drinking than the friend's dh was responsible for his - they are not each other's bloody mother!
Sorry to be ranting but this is eating at me and I'm not sure of how best to raise it with friend because I really feel that it's time to deal with it. At the end of the day I will choose dh over friend if I have to, but would prefer to know that I had at least made an effort to sort things out before this seemingly drastic step - I've not fallen out with anyone properly in years and would prefer not to start again now.
Thanks.