Ex-boyfriend has contacted me out of the blue to ask if I would take him on as a client for three months to include a face to face check in monthly.
But I haven’t seen or heard from him for over four years. His argument is he knows he can trust my standard of work. It would be a good project in terms of money and experience but I’m not sure for one major reason - his wife (they’ve been together eight years) has always made it clear that contact with me is a dealbreaker for her. The contact we’ve had since their relationship began has purely been when I was the victim of fraud and he still lived at our old address and needed some details and to send a ‘hope you’re ok’ message when a mutual friend passed away. I only know he got married because another mutual friend mentioned it a while ago. That’s how little contact we have. And the issue she had with me was simply that he had proposed (I said no) and it made her uncomfortable. We had remained friends because that’s what we were really but I have never had any issue with his decision to cut me out. I did have an issue with her ringing me in tears because he’d told me we had to cancel plans and explained why - I never asked.
I don’t want to ask, ‘but what about your DW?’ as then it makes it personal/it may not be an issue. I just don’t want to cause any misunderstandings or hurt.
I’ve had a dry two months and this work would really boost my income.
My heads saying take the money, do the job, go back to the status quo. My emotions are saying I definitely don’t want to do it if she doesn’t know.
So that’s left me thinking just say no and that the money is not worth the potential crisis that I have no desire to be caught in.