Why can’t people just say “excuse me” rather than pushing past you

[AliceRR]

I’m a crowded train a girl was sort of behind me. We stopped at a station at which not many people get off and I must have been blocking her way but, rather than ask to get past, she basically pushed her way past.

Why don’t people have basic manners?

Maybe I am being especially sensitive as I am pregnant (although you probably can’t tell when my coat is zipped up) but still

AIBU?

I've found it unnerving that people don't say "Excuse me." Or "Pardon Me." here.

Not because of pushing so much as the number of times I'll have been focused on choosing between items at the grocery store, make my decision, go to put item in trolley, turn around to see someone staring at me. They needed an item by me, I was unbeknownst to me partially blocking them...but instead of saying excuse me they just stood there for who knows how long staring at the back of my head. It is so WEIRD. Also a waste of time.

I always say "sorry, can I just squeeze past" and "excuse me" if they don't move. I did once, in IKEA say loudly "will you move you damn trolley" after 7 attempts of nicely asking.

I find I often have to gradually repeat myself louder and louder until someone will let me past. People are often in their own wee world.

I was taught that "excuse me" is meant as "May I please get around/past you?" Or more often "Sorry if I'm getting too close to you while passing by or reaching for something." It's not supposed to mean "please move".

AhYeahOkThen. That's exactly what I've always understood it to mean.

Another situation that arises is - when out shopping, I'll be preoccupied looking. One of my adult daughters will say "Muuum. Move, there's a person standing behind you waiting to get past". I become quite annoyed at both my daughter and the person concerned. I say quite matter-of-factly, "Do they not have a tongue in their head then? Are you quite sure they are incapable of independent speech? No, then mind your own beeswax"!

*AhYeahOkayThen. Being a thread on good manners, it would be remiss of me not to get your username correct