Please help me leave

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Hoping that someone could offer me some advice, please.

I need to leave my P. He's nasty. Not physically abusive, but verbally and puts me down a lot. I'm miserable.

I'm 25 and We have a 4 m/o unplanned DD. My parents disowned me when I decided to keep the baby and we are living with my ILs. I have no job to go back to as I was made redundant during pregnancy.

I have a few grand in savings and I'm planing to get a new job in Jan, but will bring it forward if I need to.

I want to leave, but I'm worried that if I do then I'd be making myself "voluntarily homeless" and will have nowhere to go. P would then be able to keep DD.

Do I have any option at all? Or do I have to grit my teeth until I've been working again for 6 months and rent my own place?

Please help me. He was never like this before.

Contact women's aid in your area, if you are fleeing advise you are not making yourself voluntarily homeless, it needn't be physical abuse. They will know the ins and outs of your local housing systems/providers and can also provide much needed emotional support. Most have a drop in centre, you can take baby with you.

It's not uncommon for abuse to start or escalate in pregnancy and after the birth of a child, you're at a very vulnerable time and he's got you where he wants you. I'm assuming his parents don't say anything about his behaviour?

He’s abusive. He doesn’t need to be physical to be abusive my lovely ❤️ Is there a women’s aid near you that you can get in touch with? They may be able to help with temporary acccommodation until you find your feet. You’re doing the right thing xx

*fleeing abuse not advice

I don't want to get him in trouble, I just want away from him.

He's a very good dad.

I'm so miserable. He just laughs at me when I get upset. Just says that I'm just 'overreacting' or 'tired'

What do I do? Can I contact CAB? I'm scared that I've got nowhere else to go. I told him I want to leave earlier and he laughed and said 'haha no you don't'

Sorry, his parents have no idea. They're very nice and have made me very welcome. He's just a nasty bastard behind closed doors.

I have nowhere to go.

He's not 'a very good dad' - a very good dad treats the mother of their children with respect

What can I do?

As far as I know, and from my experience, going to women's aid wouldn't mean he got in trouble.

Unless there was immediate risk of harm to himself or others the choice to call police would be down to you.

The reason womens aid exists is to help women like you who want to escape abusive situations before their children have to witness too much abuse.
Give them a ring.

He's a very good dad.

Good dads don't abuse the mother of their child. Good luck getting away from him.