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AIBU?

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Ebaying to keep us afloat. AIBU or not to care what people think?

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Foofloofah · 01/10/2018 22:06

And by that I especially mean my family. Had a few snarky comments like “oh you will probably sell that” when they give my kids clothes or gifts. Not from my family but the in laws. I have to bite my tongue to say “well if you shopaholic son/nephew didn’t get us in this mess I wouldn’t have to!”. Not that I do ever sell anything we get as gifts or hand me downs. I pass them all on to friends who are in the same boat or charity. Just feel that as a SAHM (can’t work as kids to young and childcare costs would outstrip any financial gains) I need to do what I can to keep us afloat. Getting hacked off. I work hard to sell what we no longer use but paid good money for. Does anyone else EBay to keep going? What witty remark can I say next time I get a snarky comment?

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JaceLancs · 01/10/2018 23:36

I make between 50 and 100 a week on ebay
I mainly sell clothes
I’ve been dieting for 2 years and have lost 5 stone
Still got a way to go so buy most of my stuff on eBay or outlet or charity shops
I usually wear for a month or two then sell for a profit

Chocolate50 · 01/10/2018 23:38

@eelbecomingforyou ah well you see you aren't posing in the clothes, on depop they seem to do this, its almost essential! makes me giggle

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Foofloofah · 01/10/2018 23:46

Agree with everyone. I need to sit him down but he is very, very forceful verbally in pushing the blame on to me. Basically he is in complete denial. He needs an intervention rather than me sitting down with him and go through his statements which I very much doubt he would let me do. It causes no end of arguments. His family know the extent of it though. His siblings are exactly the same. It’s like they missed economics 101 and were allowed to bury their heads in the sand. Can’t wait to go back to work and be financially independent again and get some savings again. I worked so hard for everything and it’s all gone. I will get it back. I am quite driven and resourceful unlike him. And yes, I sell HIS stuff. I only sold my maternity wear and the children’s clothes that were very expensive, & always kept for best.

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Foofloofah · 01/10/2018 23:47

I am not posing in men’s sports gear but I had a look at Depop and it’s quite funny! My OH has lost a ton of weight hence a lot of his clothes and sports gear are collecting dust. That’s one positive is that he is taking his health more seriously as he is going to die before 50 if he doesn’t reach a healthy BMI.

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ginswinger · 01/10/2018 23:49

If you're good at selling on Ebay, you could always turn it into a business? I started with £30 buying something in my niche market, then resold it. I don't want to say too much but my DD and I are comfortable. Feel free to PM me if you want a hand hold but TBH, it sounds as though you're pretty much on it already

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Foofloofah · 01/10/2018 23:53

Thanks ginswinger I will PM you tomorrow. Off to bed now. Early start in the morning. X

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NotMeNoNo · 02/10/2018 00:02

No shame in using eBay to buy or sell although I think there is an etiquette about listing gifts too quickly.

The far bigger issue is your family budget and your husbands spending. When you agreed to be SAHM to his children and gave up your income, the deal is he agrees to support the whole family. Not impulse shop (sounds like it's his family background to spend conspicuously,) and leave you relying on ebay for your kids activities. Parents pay for what their kids need before their own fun stuff or something is very wrong.

Do you have access to all the bank statements, perhaps you need to show him how it adds up. He's spent, I expect, several thousand pounds on crap this year. He needs his credit cards taking off him. But there will be and underlying issue, self esteem, living up to MIL expectations or something.

NotMeNoNo · 02/10/2018 00:04

X posted there, I hope you get something sorted.

Molly499 · 02/10/2018 00:11

Good for you, I thinks it's really industrious. Get yourself a cheap digital scale and then do the postage online, I think it's slightly cheaper. You print out a label which has a barcode on that the post office scans so it's much quicker. Most of the time I just give my parcels to the postman as I have a record of the postage on the account.

purplecorkheart · 02/10/2018 00:12

I admire you, ebay etc is a great way to get rid of clutter etc although I avoid selling with them as they are so pro buyer. I have started selling with similar sites locally but should be putting a lot more effort.

Hellywelly10 · 02/10/2018 00:13

Its cheaper to stop buying stuff that isnt needed.

GabsAlot · 02/10/2018 00:17

so why do u stay with him if its that bad

are u worried you cant cope coz it sounds like hes doing more harm than good

IDoLoveToBeBesideTheSeaside · 02/10/2018 00:41

Hellywelly10 I think that's the whole point of the OP's post ...

ARainbowsMum · 02/10/2018 00:42

Good for you OP, why the hell not

This is something I'd quite like to do myself actually

bridgetoc · 02/10/2018 00:59

What is wrong with selling stuff on Ebay?

I don't need the money, but if I have something we no longer need that others might want it either goes to the charity shop or on Ebay.

YANBU

GrandTheftWalrus · 02/10/2018 01:02

I keep trying to sell bundles of clothes that DD has outgrown and never any interest.

Hellywelly10 · 02/10/2018 07:18

Thanks for that seaside. Op i think you need to have a serious talk with your partner about spending.

eelbecomingforyou · 02/10/2018 08:28

@eelbecomingforyou ah well you see you aren't posing in the clothes, on depop they seem to do this, its almost essential! makes me giggle

@chocolate50 - I've just had a look and I see what you mean!

But believe me, if I posed in the clothes, that would not help them sell!!

Singlenotsingle · 02/10/2018 08:39

He's a shopaholic. There's something wrong with him! Sell the stuff, and it's no one else's business! They shouldn't even have an opinion.

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Foofloofah · 03/10/2018 20:03

Thanks everyone for your advice and insight. X

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BlueJava · 03/10/2018 20:46

YABU to tell them! They don't need to know. However, you shouldn't be letting him get away with what he's spending - it's ridiculous for you to have to work so hard on ebay whilst he's blowing cash!

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