AIBU To feel like my friends are shit!

[DaniC18]

I've a handful of close friends that I've been friends with for between 7- 12 years.
Recently I've began questioning if a couple of them are in fact good friends.
A few things have been playing on my mind. I am usually the one texting/calling and they cancel nights out last minute etc never me.
I go miles out of my way to help them with application forms, dog sitting and even moving house but have never asked for a favour until now.. I asked my 2 best friends to write a character reference for me and even though they agreed at the time and had 2 weeks to do it NEITHER has completed it which has now delayed the progress of my application!!
I feel soo annoyed and upset that I work so hard at our friendships and try my best to be a good friend but they can't do something as simple as complete 1 sheet of paper about me!!
AIBU or do I have the right to feel so hurt? I feel like my friends don't care about me as much as I do them 😭 they are starting to feel like pretty shit friends.

I dont understand this need to have a 'right' to feel something. Feelings just happen, what you do with them is something else.

On the face of what youve said YANBU. However, did they understand the importance and the deadline? If yes and yes then that is rubbish. Are you going to confront them? I dont mean start an argument, i just mean raise it with them.

I get asked to do references all the time for people. I nearly always agree and do it ASAP, however occassionally I've been snowed under, read the email and then totally forgotten about it. It sounds like your friends might be really busy and tho sjust slipped off the list. Unless someone says it's urgent then it may be something that they intended to get back to. If I were you I'd just straight up ask them if they've done it, even though you know they haven't and when they say no prompt them to dk if explaining why you need it done. YANBU to do this. YABU to dump them as friends without giving them a chance.

Thanks for the comments I think I needed other perceptions to try and and understand why it's happened as it feels like they simply don't care enough. I've called down a little and will probably bring it up with them but I do feel hurt x